Navigating Emotional Challenges During My Notice Period: Feeling Undervalued and Overlooked

Dear All,

I, Revathi, am working as an HR in an organization. I have just graduated from college, and this is my first job. However, I submitted my resignation last week as I am planning to pursue further studies. I am currently in my notice period and would like to share my experience during this time.

Firstly, after serving for 9 months in this organization, I felt upset when I submitted my resignation. I was considered one of the best employees by my boss. However, upon learning about my resignation, he did not make any effort to persuade me to stay. It seemed like he was pleased that there would be no excess staffing in the HR department.

Regarding my colleague, he felt insecure about me because shortly after I joined, my boss entrusted me with important responsibilities instead of him, despite him being 3 years senior to me. When he found out about my resignation, he was happy and couldn't hide his excitement, which was hurtful to me.

Every day, my boss reminds me that I have resigned. Although I have delegated my tasks to my juniors, I am still in the organization. I understand the need to be practical, but as a human, I have emotions, and it can be painful. Even before I have left the company, my boss has started avoiding me in meetings and treating me as if I am useless, despite previously considering me his favorite employee.

Additionally, my junior colleague sometimes acts superior to me now that I have resigned.

I acknowledge that my behavior may seem immature, but I can't help but wonder why I put in so much effort for a company that doesn't seem to care now that I am leaving.

Thank you.

Dear Revathi,

As this is your first job, you have become very emotionally attached to the company. I hope in the future, you will become accustomed to these kinds of circumstances. You are responsible and professional, which is why you are serving the company during your notice period. Have some patience; this is just a matter of a few days. Don't let them understand your feelings. Please do not react, just relax and stay cool. This is just the beginning of your career; undoubtedly, you will progress and have an excellent career after finishing your studies. At that time, you will remember these days and laugh at yourself. For people who don't understand your value, you should never bother about them. Be confident and take care.

Dear Revathi,

What you mentioned happens to many employees, be it in HR or any other profession. The first job is very close to the heart of all, probably because at that point we have just moved out of college, with close friends, family, and have to face the practical world all by ourselves. We try to give it our best and put our heart and soul into it. However, professionalism dictates no emotional attachments at the workplace.

From the point of view of the employer, there is no such thing as a "favorite employee." These are all means to get the best work out of you, motivational tactics so that you remain in the organization. Now that you are not continuing, there is no need to do all that! So, understand the professional world as fast as you can so that you don't get hurt again.

All the best to you!

Hello Revathi,

Control your emotions; this is natural, and it happens to everyone. The more you work for any company, the more you will become attached to that company. You are hurt because of the attitude of your boss. For your boss, you are in the past, and he is concentrating on the future. It's quite natural; these are the tactics they adopt in any profession. So, don't worry and take it as a lesson. Always keep one thing in mind: "Love your profession, not your company."

Regards,
Suresh G Nair

It's so normal, Revathy.

I went through something worse than this.

I was with a company for one year. When I put in my papers, my boss did try to convince me. But after realizing that it was of no use, he accepted the resignation. Only for two days, everyone was okay and shared their feelings of letting me move.

You won't believe - they changed my place - gave me an old (1980's) computer desktop, and took away the new flat desktop that I had earlier, giving it to a junior. They moved me away from the entire team place and put me in a corner and lonely place (I was the only person in that corner).

They started telling the other members not to communicate with me.

My boss called me and said that he heard from a trusted person that I am doing so many things to spoil the image of the company internally and forcing many to quit.

I felt hurt as few people looked up to me as their mentor but later started doubting me and moving away from me.

And finally, I ended up doing admin work for everyone during the notice period as I was requested to cooperate and do my best to be helpful in all ways to everyone....

What you went through is normal. Corporates share info only with people through whom they would benefit in sharing. They forget to respect us as humans.

You have a better thing to do after moving out. Prepare for that. Don't spend time thinking people will come to you and share info with you. Rather spend this time thinking about what you can do to make your life better. But don't treat them back in the same way. Respect them. Because if tomorrow you or they have to approach each other on any business-related matter - then it would be hard to remove hurt feelings. Keep nothing in mind. On the last day - give everyone sweets and thank each of them personally for their kind cooperation.

There is no better way than this to make them understand your true dedication.

Dear Friends,

You have all given very good inputs. This is a learning for Revathi. Ms. Revathi, you should not forget that you are an HR professional, and in your future assignments, you should remember this and ensure how to take care of the people in their notice period. Also, do not forget that this is a train journey, and all of us are passengers; we do not know when we will be co-passengers. Therefore, it is the responsibility of all of us to respect each other. Over a period of time, you may also join the same company at a higher position, and most of these people who behaved differently may report to you or benefit from your actions. So, have patience and do not forget this experience, from which we will learn lessons from our mistakes.

I do not understand how your boss, as an HR head, does not know this mantra. Regarding your contribution to the organization, I believe that every employee should work to their best and contribute to the organization without making excuses. However, I am not happy with your colleagues behaving differently towards you, as they may not be aware that everyone is dispensable, and nobody is permanent. They should realize that they may also experience the same treatment one day. Therefore, I think you should leave all these things to their wisdom and move forward like a swimmer. Just as a swimmer pushes the water towards the sides and back to proceed towards their goal.

Best regards,
Kameswarao

Hi Revathi,

Let me tell you one thing frankly, in this corporate world, no one is there for you. You need to take care of yourself and try to accept the reality ASAP.

Take care.

Regards,
Sapna Chauhan

Yes, Revathy,

Being in your first job, you have become emotionally attached to your job and the company. When you are attached to something, there is always a feeling of pain when you part from it. As you have decided to leave the organization, now think about the future. It's true that not everyone may share the same feelings that you have, as everyone thinks and feels differently. Your boss has seen many people leave the company, so for him, anybody leaving would be like just another person quitting. If you have contributed and performed well in your duties, you should be proud of that. Sometimes our efforts are appreciated, while other times they may go unnoticed. So, don't get emotionally upset. Make your presence more meaningful in the next job. Focus on the next job and leave the present one with a graceful smile, knowing that you have done well in your responsibilities.

All the best for your next job.

Regards,
Shijit

Dear All,

I, Revathi, am working as an HR in an organization. I have just graduated from college, and this is my first job. However, I submitted my resignation last week because I am planning to pursue further studies. I am currently in the Notice Period. I would like to share with you all what I am going through during my Notice Period.

First of all, after working for 9 months in this organization, I was very upset when I submitted my resignation. I was considered one of the best employees by my boss. However, when he found out that I resigned, he didn't even try to stop me once. He seemed very pleased that there would possibly be no excess staffing in the HR Department.

Regarding my colleague, he felt very insecure about me because shortly after I joined, my boss entrusted me with all the important responsibilities instead of him, despite him being 3 years senior to me. So, when he learned about my resignation, he was very happy and couldn't contain his excitement. It truly hurt me.

Every day, my boss reminds me that I have resigned. I have passed on my responsibilities to my juniors, but I am still in the organization. I understand I should be practical, but as a human being, we all have feelings, and it can be very hurtful at times. Even though I have not yet left the company, he has begun to avoid me in meetings and treats me as if I am useless, whereas in the past, I was his favorite employee.

Additionally, my junior colleague sometimes acts as if he is my boss now that I have resigned.

I realize my behavior may seem immature, but I can't help but wonder why I did so much for a company that doesn't even seem to care now that I am leaving.

Kind regards,
Revathi

Hi,
I read your mail as well as the other mail regarding new management who does not respect HR. It was very painful to know this. This is very demotivating for HR aspirants. But along with that we are learning new HR sensitive dimentions .We are sensitive when people join us but we need to be more careful when people leave us. Bcoz it affects negatively company brand... As we know “People leave managers and not companies..." but still it is directly affecting company brand..

Aparna Sethi

Dear Ms. Revathi,

I do understand your feelings. Please be cool and involve yourself in your career path because these feelings and emotions are not going to help you at any point. Do not bother about others. They may feel you are useless to them, but "In this world, nobody can play your role better than you."

So be cool and relax. Just go ahead with your work. It's all in the game.

Best Wishes, Jayanthi

Dear all,

After reading the mail, I am very unhappy with the way the boss has been treating us. Ms. Revathi, take this as a challenge, and after your studies, your boss will have to work under you. In that way, your career should progress.

Remember to treat him as a human being and acknowledge the value of every individual.

From,
Sushma

Dear Revathi,

I have gone through the same situation in my ex-company. But be calm and don't lose your self-confidence. Be focused on what you have decided; there will be 100 obstacles when something good is going to happen. Write or give very strong feedback in your exit interview about your experience. Be strong and move ahead in your life. Wish you good luck for your studies.

Regards, Radhika

Hi Revathi,

I see many people have given many types of answers. Here is my perception.

As long as you blame someone else for your situation, you are giving control of your life and your happiness to them, and you cannot do anything about it.

I believe that everything happens in our life by our conscious or unconscious invitation. We write the script of our life at all times. We may not find the logic when we are inside the movie. Yet this concept is really helpful in resolving issues like the one you have pointed out.

Remember, finally, it is all about you. Even in your mail, it is about yourself and how you were appreciated, and now things are not turning out as per expectations. This mail also has a lot of assumptions considered as fact (e.g. an insecure colleague, probably the boss is happy about your resigning: How are you so sure or is this just a perception?). The rule is if you ever make up a story, always make the story that gives you power and not that takes away your light.

One: The world will always live up to your expectations. So if you believe it is a bad corporate world, at least it would be for you. The world is simply a reflection of what is going on inside you in a different way. Think about that. Consider changing your orientation and attitude, and you will be surprised how events and people around you change.

Two: Question yourself as to why you would have written this script in your life? To learn what? Every single incident has a purpose. Search and you will find.

I am quite sure that a few years down the line, you will find that these days really laid a strong foundation for you to be an excellent HR professional.

Three: A statement of powerful intent always works: How about creating an intent like this:
- Let the issue and turmoil faced by Revathi during her notice period be resolved amicably, and she spends her remaining days there in an environment of harmony. Let her find ways and wisdom to come out like a shining star in this experience.

Best regards,

Rohan

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Dear Friend,

Don't be upset. I feel that you are overly emotional because this is your first job. In a professional environment, this is common. Be more professional and take it easy. In your future career, you will have to manage different kinds of employees, both seniors and juniors. Good luck.

Shiv Kumar

Dear Seniors,

I humbly thank you all for your excellent cooperation. Your replies have really made me feel that I was behaving like a kid, and now I should grow up. It is really very helpful for building a strong foundation in my career. I would be grateful to you all for this help.

To Ash Mathew, I really felt bad reading your situation, but now I understand that these hurdles in our lives help make us strong enough to face the real world.

To Rohan, I really liked your suggestion. I will surely keep it in mind.

Thanks once again to all.

Regards,

Revathi Pillai

Dear Revathi,

Sweety, just relax! Forgive your boss, but don't forget this incident as it will help you to be more practical next time when you come across such situations in the future. You should always forgive people who hurt you as it will help you to move ahead, but do not forget them so that next time you will be prepared and be aware that they may hurt you again.

Thanks to all the members of Cite HR for real help and support whenever needed. So, cheer up!

Revathi, Regards,

Shruti CMS HR :-P

Hi Revathi & A Big Hi to all,

I think Revathi, by letting us know what happened to you, made us aware of the entire situation that is surrounding us. What I have gone through is worse! I was working for a gaming company where I was laid off just last month after working there for 7 months, and being my first job, I was told the reason was COST CUTTING!!! Duhhh---uhhhh!!!! 😕 I was given my resignation and the relieving letter the very same day but after I completed my work.

I was very, very angry with the entire procedure. This issue of laying off should be handled better by the companies.

I decided if the company doesn't want me, so be it! There are numerous companies who would respect your work and your potential. So be calm and work for your future!

Best of luck!

Dear Swarna,

I agree with your views. We should keep smiling and be cool during our exit. Knowing that we are all human beings, sometimes that may not be considered, as only the business matters. Revati can take this as an experience, not as revenge. OK. Best of luck.

With Regards,
Chidananda L R

Dear Revathi,

Two or three things went wrong in your case.

1. Did you discuss with your boss before submitting your resignation or even inform them that due to higher studies, you need to discontinue your services and that you shall tender resignation shortly?

2. Nobody in this world is indispensable. How did you think that in your absence work will suffer or so forth?

In my view, when your boss has given you a full opportunity to excel/perform, you should have discussed with him prior to the submission of resignation. You have been working with them at the cost of money, so there is nothing wrong. You have submitted your resignation, continue higher studies, and get a good job. Why worry?

Best wishes.

Kind regards,

MANOJ GUPTA

Kamp_700693@yahoo.com

Raipur

Dear Ravathi,

This is a common occurrence that you are facing. If you take it personally, it will hurt you. However, if you approach it professionally, you will see that it is a very common thing. Since this is your first experience, you may be feeling emotionally hurt. It's important to note that you will not always encounter the same type of boss in other companies. I have gone through a number of similar situations, but my suggestion is that at the end of the day, only two things matter:

1) Your smart working attitude.
2) The level of professionalism you exhibit.

Never stop giving your best. Always identify your priorities to find happiness in the professional world.

All the best!

Regards,
Alok

Dear Revathy,

Whatever happens, it's for the good. Don't worry. Think that your company is not lucky enough to have you there and practice this mantra. Never love your company, love your job only. And don't just go with people's reaction or face value; you may be wrong sometimes. Good people will get good things. I wish and pray that you should get a good job and you will get good friends in the form of colleagues. All the best & chill.

Priya

Hi, while reading the article, I was amazed. This thing happened to me 4 months back - a similar case, but I left the job due to my health. All these things happened to me as well. I was so disturbed that I lost my self-confidence. My boss used to insult me in front of everyone; he scolded me without a reason. He said, "You can't leave the job unless I want." I could not work anywhere else after that. But now I have understood that I was not at fault. These things teach you a lot, so learn from it and don't give it so much importance.

Sakshi Malhotra

Hi Revathi,

It seems that you are quite an emotional kind of person. This corporate world is like this only, and take this as your experience with this world. You have a long way to go, and this is just a start. You will find so many kinds of people in corporates, but definitely there are good people also. Do not bother about those who do not care for you and your appreciable efforts. Take it as this is not the right place for you. Always try to be positive, cool, and calm. You have to learn to suppress the emotions in you, and this is what the HR profession demands. I guess you will reach the top and achieve your goals in your career. You can be a successful HR.

Take my best wishes.

Good Luck!

Take care,

Ram

XXX Pvt Ltd

Sr. HR

Dear friends,

We are in a competitive world. We shouldn't reveal our personal emotions at the workplace. I think Ms. Revathi received many condolences. The day will come when you can laugh when you remember all these days. Be brave, keep smiling!

Regards,
Vijay

Hi,

When we graduated from our professional college, we were given certain functional tips on 'management'. One of the pieces of advice was, "... develop a crocodile skin and remain focused on what we want to achieve."

Once you have decided to quit, you should have zero expectations from the people working in the company. Remain focused on your goal, and pursue your efforts with zeal and enthusiasm. You are not in a popularity contest. Continue your march and ignore those who have no time for you.

Cyril