How Can You Support a Friend Who's Feeling Alone and Needs Trust Rebuilding?

Don't let him be alone. Distract his mind with some work and some outings. Let him make some good friends; for that, you have to help because his trust has been hurt. At this moment, one person wants somebody to be with him. You know who he can rely on. Be with him.

Regards, Vidya

Good evening Srikanth,

First and foremost, I think it's nice that you want to help your friend. I don't know if this will help, but I think it would be useful.

See Srikanth, you must be knowing in today's world each and every one of us is vulnerable to the passions and desires which are forbidden. Everyone makes mistakes; none of us is without fault. Each of us has a past; none of us is perfect. You first said that she was a good girl, right? So then she must have surely made your friend happy and gave him a reason for living. If he was dedicatedly in love with her, then surely he felt very good with her. In today's world, nobody makes a sacrifice for anybody; it's always a give and take situation wherein both derive pleasure and happiness from a relationship.

Now tell me Srikanth, if that's the case, why dwell or only think about the bad parts of a relationship and how bad one is? Why not think about the good one has derived from a relationship which was mutual?

Remember one thing Srikanth, if your friend really loved her, he would accept her as she is with her past if he is sure his love is strong enough to make her change. But if in case he does want to move on, why not just think of the happy moments, lock it in the diary of memories as a good instance?

I'm not saying the memories will not come, but my question is why run away from them? Let them flow and pass on. Life goes on. If your friend has reached so far as an HR Executive, then he must have had a focused goal in mind, right? Despite him loving this girl on the sidelines, then surely he will have the courage to pick himself up and move on. A phoenix, Srikanth, is a bird who burns himself up but again grows out of the ashes. It's up to us also to pick ourselves up and fly high but yet keep in mind the experiences in order to help us in our journey called life.

No one said life was easy. Hey, it's how we look at it. The way I see it, that girl has just taught your friend how to keep his eyes open and be more observant, not look at everything in black and white. So she has done him a favor, right?

Tell your friend this, if he has any questions, he can always let me know. If you have any questions on anything I've written, you can ask me.

Hey, you're given a noble thing to do. Make the best of that, don't lose courage. Instead, fill your friend up with so much positivity that he forgets to be negative. And I hope your friend has actually seen the proof of her being unfaithful and not just relied on people's words. You're innocent until proven guilty, remember?

All the Best!

Aveena

Srikanth,

I don't know whether it helps, but one of my friends faced such a situation. To divert himself from the pain, he got into photography and has slowly proved himself in the field. It's been one year since he moved on and feels the art has helped him when it mattered.

Regards, Sam Amose.

Hi Srikanth,

Well, I would like to tell you that people have changed; relationships are no longer based on trust. It is all about give and take. Therefore, I suggest that your friend needs support in every way, and you should be with him always. Do not leave him alone. Once he gets well, encourage him to return to work as soon as possible so that he can stay busy and try to move past the things that have happened to him.

Regards,
Seema Goswami
HR Manager

Hi Srikanth,

Life is so short, enjoy it. Do not keep unwanted feelings. Try to forget and forgive as you are a human being. Only human beings have the capacity to forget. Please go back to your job and interact with people.

Regards,
Bindu Chandra
Manager HR & Facility

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Regards,
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Hi,

My advice to your friend is, don't think about the person who has nothing for you. Take him to a meditation center and encourage him to spend time with his family as well as with well-wishers like you.

Dear Srikanth,

I would suggest you talk to him and help him understand the importance of valuing and loving himself first before anyone else. He should realize that God has given him one life, not to be wasted on people who do not appreciate him. It is good to love and care for someone, but not to the extent that you forget your own identity.

He needs to recognize that he is unique in his own way, and the girl was not meant for him. Though the pain may linger for a while, please advise him not to lose sight of his identity for that girl. It is better to move forward in life as there are many other interesting aspects to explore in a person's life, in addition to love.

Encourage him to focus on his interests and qualities, and to nurture them instead of dwelling on her memories and damaging his own life. She will not return to lift him up if he falls. It is up to him to gather himself and walk confidently again.

The more you reveal your vulnerability in this world, the more people there are to take advantage and move ahead.

I am sharing this based on my personal experience.

I hope your friend finds the courage to overcome this phase.

Regards,

Uma

Hi Srikanth,

There are a lot of things in life that we are not happy about, but we continue our journey. Counsel your friend and be there for him. Tell him that there are a lot of relationships he has made since he was born, and there are many people looking out for his well-being. Encourage him to focus on those relationships and not dwell on the girl who hurt him. I believe we all have past memories in our lives that are more valuable than failed relationships, memories that can be cherished and bring magic into our lives.

One should always believe that we are here on earth to serve the poor and the children living on the streets. There are many responsibilities and accountabilities we have towards God and our living gods, our parents.

Thank you.

Dear Srikant,

Good, yaar. Srikant, don't feel sorry for your friend. Knowing she has a bad personality, dying for her is something yuck. I am sorry to say this, man, you can't console the decided decision but the feelings. Try to find and break the decision he made. Tell him to think practical and not emotional.

Just divert his mind from that subject and make him extra busy in the office and other work so that he doesn't have time to think about that. After a month, he will come to his natural stage.

The suggestions from Avee and seemagoswami are apt for the situation - based on trust. Hope it helps.

Sreekanth,

This is life; we need to make our mind accept and reject many things which we dislike or like. We need to live in such a way that we should be able to understand situations and act accordingly. If your friend is trying to spoil his life only because of that girl, he is making her win again, and he will always be a loser. Only your friend will lose, and no one else is going to lose. So, try to make him understand things. Tell him that he just lost one "bus" but waits in hope; he will get a "train" that will have enough space to accommodate all his needs.

Srikanth, I suggest that you seek professional help. This is a sensitive issue, and I don't think that this can be solved by advice.

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Hi Srikanth,

As of now, you have received many suggestions! However, it all depends on how your friend reacts. One thing is certain: it's a time-consuming process, and as time passes, he will forget her. Encourage him to focus his mind on activities such as his hobbies or anything else that makes him feel comfortable. Don't leave him alone for some time.

Regards, Supriya

Love alone is not life; it's a part. He has other things to focus on. For this reason, he got heartbroken; how can he cope with organizational problems as an HR? As you are his friend, help him understand what life is. Take care.

Hi Srikanth,

It's nice to have someone who is really close and understands a friend so much; it's true that at some point in our lives, we find ourselves in such a situation.

Well, I just can suggest you support your friend emotionally. Just tell him how much potential he has and how much he is wasting his life sulking over a silly matter. If he really loves this girl, let her be free to her will. It would be foolishness to go after her. Just think, we are just possessive, and does it serve any purpose?

I wish your friend was born before Indian Independence; he would have laid down his life for the country rather than for one silly girl or would have joined the Armed forces to face the enemies at the border. He would have felt the importance and value of human life, integrity, and sovereignty.

Anyway, with due respect to this girl, don't blame her or curse her; let her live her life.

Ask him to read some inspirational books of great people.

"There is more in life, and whatever happens, happens for good."

BE A MAN.

RDX:icon1:

Hi Srikanth,

By God's grace, he is very lucky. If he finds out after marriage that she is that kind of girl, imagine how miserable his entire life will be. It is just a lesson that he should learn before getting close to someone. Please advise him not to have any feelings for that woman. Let her realize that she won't find someone like him in her lifetime. Encourage him to focus on his work; within two months, he will move on from that feeling. Do not let him be alone; stay with him and avoid discussing this topic. Instead, talk about something else in general.

Regards,
Dinesh P

I am rough but can't help. Ask that person to die. Is he a man? Is he a mad fellow?

Let him die instead of living like this.

I pity you for bringing this here as you could have told him this. Why fall in love and suffer? Who are you to spoil the soul which has been brought up with utmost care by parents? Do you think about your parents before doing all these? Better do some other job instead of taking care of the guy. Ignore him. What foolishness...

If he is not able to make decisions in life, how can he be a good HR person who can guide and help others make decisions?

Let us be practical. I don't even know what the meaning of the topic "Employee cheated in love" is. What a great waste of time. Put an end to this.

Just tell him this: "Sacrifice your life for those who love you back instead of wasting your life for those who have betrayed or ditched you."

Never cry for any relation in life because for the one whom you cry does not deserve your tears, and the one who deserves will never let you cry.

Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you, not because they are not nice but because you are nice.

Never search your happiness in others, which will make you feel alone. Rather, search it in yourself. You will feel happy even if you are left alone.

Always have a positive attitude in life. There is something positive in every person. Even a stopped watch is right twice a day.

Happiness always looks small when we hold it in our hands. But when we learn to share it, we realize how big and precious it is!