Dear Urvashi
what about company rules, performance appraisals. and team management. you know i will qoute the example of my director. he made sure we worked in teams we were not familiar with.it did stir up the things but it also got the work done i know it doesn always work but then you have company rules. break times.
you can try the following
check the company rules
if they are there for timings, breaks, etc. then circulate them through mail as an attachement but do keep your boss informed verbally and also attach a CC copy to him/ her. others will know that those above u are not in dark if there are no rules or minimum. take your boss in confidence and frame them. they should be consistent throughout organization. be sure to follow them yourself. because you lead by example.
step 2: circulate guidelines on office ettiqute. and behaviour. try to make them as general as possible. but the message should go across that such kind of behaviour is no longer being taken lightly by the management. check on the response. at this stage grapevine plays an important role if you know how to use it.
step 3 if things do not improve check on the performance of all and not only these too. i am sure you will able to nail them. after all Love came later, work came first. if the work suffers so will job and so will such a relationship. you may get a chance on the basis of work to tell them that they are losing their grip on their work.
if things still do not improve then be courageous call them (you call them separately) and tell the guy that if his performance should drop his popularity in his personal life could drop too. he must concentrate on his work . he will give all kinds of reasons including that he knows how to manage things. the gal may also say u are jealous etc etc. but remmember sometimes when soft treatments dont work we have to take the bitter pil. Good treatments are nearly always bitter. the seed will be sown well in his mind and things will improve over night.
so u dont tell them they should stop or not talk or anything else but some times realization of reality is must. and the reality is that professional girls and not so professional girls at the end of the day expect their partner to be serious with work. and atleast moderately ambitious in their career.
what about company rules, performance appraisals. and team management. you know i will qoute the example of my director. he made sure we worked in teams we were not familiar with.it did stir up the things but it also got the work done i know it doesn always work but then you have company rules. break times.
you can try the following
check the company rules
if they are there for timings, breaks, etc. then circulate them through mail as an attachement but do keep your boss informed verbally and also attach a CC copy to him/ her. others will know that those above u are not in dark if there are no rules or minimum. take your boss in confidence and frame them. they should be consistent throughout organization. be sure to follow them yourself. because you lead by example.
step 2: circulate guidelines on office ettiqute. and behaviour. try to make them as general as possible. but the message should go across that such kind of behaviour is no longer being taken lightly by the management. check on the response. at this stage grapevine plays an important role if you know how to use it.
step 3 if things do not improve check on the performance of all and not only these too. i am sure you will able to nail them. after all Love came later, work came first. if the work suffers so will job and so will such a relationship. you may get a chance on the basis of work to tell them that they are losing their grip on their work.
if things still do not improve then be courageous call them (you call them separately) and tell the guy that if his performance should drop his popularity in his personal life could drop too. he must concentrate on his work . he will give all kinds of reasons including that he knows how to manage things. the gal may also say u are jealous etc etc. but remmember sometimes when soft treatments dont work we have to take the bitter pil. Good treatments are nearly always bitter. the seed will be sown well in his mind and things will improve over night.
so u dont tell them they should stop or not talk or anything else but some times realization of reality is must. and the reality is that professional girls and not so professional girls at the end of the day expect their partner to be serious with work. and atleast moderately ambitious in their career.