I am going through a severe problem Please Suggest me what to to do ?
Especially Senior HR’s Expecting advices from you all.
It starts couple of Months back where I worked as a HR Recruiter in a newly started consultancy, where I was delighted with my profile, as I was designated as a Team Leader & was handling a Team of 7 in recruitment. Everything was going smooth as It was a learning experience Until one day…,
I receive a cordial or appreciation message from my so called Director (That he was very much impressed with my work & the way I am taking care of things over there besides recruitment) what he meant was : I used to do lot of other activities like a company growth planning, infrastructure, making a good use of the limited resources & inspiring others, Curricular activities, team building, team outing, Managing the office in Directors absence, taking care of minute to big issues related to employees or office, etccc…I mean I was in Multi tasking Role & was happy doing all that.
So he started messaging me daily, the messages became official to casual then personal.
Initially I thought he is just trying to praise me & make use of me then I thought he is really a disheartened person & has several mishap in his life & he needs some one to share.
The messages were all kind of personal & emotional I mean the way he had problems in his life & the way he has been ditched by others.
Loads of emotional stuff in messages.
Sometimes I also thought that Is this guy a attention seeker where he is trying to grab attention by gaining sympathy.
On second thoughts I thought he is a genuine person & sharing all his emotional feelings with me.
Finally we ended up hanging out, spending time, watching movies.
Here is a TWIST, after a while he offered me to be a part of Board of Directors.
I thought it’s too early for me to be in that position, rather I thought he is scared that I would quit the job once I gain experience so he is trying to hold me back by offering me that position. Where he will get a nice BAKRA with a very less package.
Anyhow I asked him to give me some time to think.
In between when I was unable to go out with him, he used to behave like a kiddo & sometimes even don’t talk to me as well. Eventually he became possessive & started emotionally black mailing me that if I ever think of quitting the job He will Suicide.
I got running thoughts, concluding whether He is a GAY or a Psycho or an emotionally sick Or a Over smart person.
However, It was all getting on my nerves & I was unable to concentrate on my work, I even mentioned several times that all his behavior is effecting his own company But he continued the same.
Finally, I didn’t want to loose my mental balance & decided to quit. I resigned.
I resigned without even serving notice. He knew that I will contact him to get the formalities done & to collect the documents.
This was not an end; he continuously messaged & mailed me, apologized in each mail & message & wanted me to come back. I ignored his messages & continued with my Hunt for another job.
I was looking out for a corporate break but I was getting Offers only from consultancies.
Finally after 25 days I responded to his message that I would come back but I have certain conditions.
I shall work from home (or free lancer) & come to office only if needed.
I shall only respond or rather report to him only thru mails
& No personal meetings / talks or hangouts.
He agreed for everything.
Again it was all sailing according to me. But after a 30 – 35 days he didn’t stick to his promise & started behaving the same & wanted me to be in front rather with him day in day out which irate me & I was rude to him saying I don’t like the way he behaves again the same.
Henceforth, He sends me a mail that I am unfit to be a part of his organization & he sacks me without giving my salary either.
I feel so wrong, weird & culpable about myself that I revert my decision of going back for such a hypocrite, that I wasted my 1 month where I would have Hunt for a good job.
Now my morale is so very down & feel myself a wrong decision maker & I feel I have ruined my career.
As in I am finding difficult to get a job in this tough time of recession.
Suggest me guys where I was wrong or right?
Where do I need to improve?
What can I do to go ahead with High Spirits?
Thank you for your Precious Time.
Especially Senior HR’s Expecting advices from you all.
It starts couple of Months back where I worked as a HR Recruiter in a newly started consultancy, where I was delighted with my profile, as I was designated as a Team Leader & was handling a Team of 7 in recruitment. Everything was going smooth as It was a learning experience Until one day…,
I receive a cordial or appreciation message from my so called Director (That he was very much impressed with my work & the way I am taking care of things over there besides recruitment) what he meant was : I used to do lot of other activities like a company growth planning, infrastructure, making a good use of the limited resources & inspiring others, Curricular activities, team building, team outing, Managing the office in Directors absence, taking care of minute to big issues related to employees or office, etccc…I mean I was in Multi tasking Role & was happy doing all that.
So he started messaging me daily, the messages became official to casual then personal.
Initially I thought he is just trying to praise me & make use of me then I thought he is really a disheartened person & has several mishap in his life & he needs some one to share.
The messages were all kind of personal & emotional I mean the way he had problems in his life & the way he has been ditched by others.
Loads of emotional stuff in messages.
Sometimes I also thought that Is this guy a attention seeker where he is trying to grab attention by gaining sympathy.
On second thoughts I thought he is a genuine person & sharing all his emotional feelings with me.
Finally we ended up hanging out, spending time, watching movies.
Here is a TWIST, after a while he offered me to be a part of Board of Directors.
I thought it’s too early for me to be in that position, rather I thought he is scared that I would quit the job once I gain experience so he is trying to hold me back by offering me that position. Where he will get a nice BAKRA with a very less package.
Anyhow I asked him to give me some time to think.
In between when I was unable to go out with him, he used to behave like a kiddo & sometimes even don’t talk to me as well. Eventually he became possessive & started emotionally black mailing me that if I ever think of quitting the job He will Suicide.
I got running thoughts, concluding whether He is a GAY or a Psycho or an emotionally sick Or a Over smart person.
However, It was all getting on my nerves & I was unable to concentrate on my work, I even mentioned several times that all his behavior is effecting his own company But he continued the same.
Finally, I didn’t want to loose my mental balance & decided to quit. I resigned.
I resigned without even serving notice. He knew that I will contact him to get the formalities done & to collect the documents.
This was not an end; he continuously messaged & mailed me, apologized in each mail & message & wanted me to come back. I ignored his messages & continued with my Hunt for another job.
I was looking out for a corporate break but I was getting Offers only from consultancies.
Finally after 25 days I responded to his message that I would come back but I have certain conditions.
I shall work from home (or free lancer) & come to office only if needed.
I shall only respond or rather report to him only thru mails
& No personal meetings / talks or hangouts.
He agreed for everything.
Again it was all sailing according to me. But after a 30 – 35 days he didn’t stick to his promise & started behaving the same & wanted me to be in front rather with him day in day out which irate me & I was rude to him saying I don’t like the way he behaves again the same.
Henceforth, He sends me a mail that I am unfit to be a part of his organization & he sacks me without giving my salary either.
I feel so wrong, weird & culpable about myself that I revert my decision of going back for such a hypocrite, that I wasted my 1 month where I would have Hunt for a good job.
Now my morale is so very down & feel myself a wrong decision maker & I feel I have ruined my career.
As in I am finding difficult to get a job in this tough time of recession.
Suggest me guys where I was wrong or right?
Where do I need to improve?
What can I do to go ahead with High Spirits?
Thank you for your Precious Time.