Dear Friends,
Greetings from Shabbar Suterewala.
Here are the most Important Tips on Counselling, I believe it will help you to be a better person, a person who would be liked by others.
Is someone you care about going through an ending or a difficult transition, feeling sad or grieving? Are you?
Everyone experiences changes in life. With most endings and transitions -- such as Job & Business changes, Relationship, Marriage, Death of a loved one -- grief and sadness are a normal part of the process.
Unfortunately, people experiencing grief and sadness are often given the message that they should do so in seclusion or suppress their emotions. While in public, they're encouraged to hide their emotions, put on a happy face, get on with life, etc. This is mostly because the rest of us are not comfortable with and don't know how to deal with grief and sadness in others.
Think about the last time you had a conversation with someone experiencing sadness or grief.
Once the person started sharing his or her emotions, didn't you immediately wanted to offer encouragement, inspiration or a solution? Most of us do, and we believe we are being supportive by doing this.
But while we are busy fixing the person's problems, he or she has just lost the opportunity to be listened to. Telling his or her story and being listened to is vital during times of transition.
Understand to Understand.
The following are some tips to really help someone experiencing the grief, sadness or stress. Follow the steps outlined below and you will be giving those you cherish a priceless gift.
If you are the one experiencing an ending, grief or transition, share these ideas with your friends and family to create a supportive environment for yourself.
Listen Actively without interruption
Look into the eyes paying attention to the tone, facial expression & body language
Keep your Judgement and Perception out
Listen without Telling Your Story.
Nod and Acknowledge what has been said.
Do not start providing solutions and formulas.
Do not sympathize
Don't Determine the Time Limit on another's Emotions.
Keep the sharing confidential
Friends, If someone you care about is going through a transition and feeling sad or grieving, stressed, simply LISTEN. Not only with your ears but putting your heart into it. By listening you will be giving him or her a vital gift.
If you are the one going through a difficult transition and feeling sad, grieving, find supportive people to simply listen to you.
If you are a parent, you need to Listen to your Child.
If you are a son/daughter you need to Listen to your Parent/s
Spouses need to listen to each other - if you don;t then somebody else will...!
Bosses need to listen to their subordinate/team.
Organizations need to listen to their Customers - no wonder why your customer goes to your competitors.
Your relationships will be richer and fuller for the experience.
Pls. share your feedback on this important
Soft Skills Listening which is most neglected.
Regards
Shabbar Suterwala
Corporate Soft Skills Trainer & Psychological Counselor