Hey Shweta
I really appreciate your decision to stand your ground and fight your own battle. I'm very positive that not only would you one day gain the respect of this same boss, but you would also bring about a positive change in the thought process of your colleagues. This would be your greatest reward! And only you would know how sweet it tastes when you finally receive it.
Like most people said here, that quiting is the easiest, its persistence that makes you a winner, I would also like to draw your attention to one important aspect. There are some people with very strong negativities. If you do decide to face your boss, and you very EARNESTLY wish to help him (he has reasons for his behavior, and can be calmed to an extent), prepare yourself well. This could be a very difficult task. You would need to be careful that his negative attitude doesnot effect you, and that you do not take the office package into your domestic space. If you feel thats happening, and you cannot handle it, I would say, dont stretch it too far, he isnt your responsibility.
I too had a temperament. The things that I tried to tune myself down, I am sharing them with you. These have worked on me, and my colleagues/friends/relatives. Hope it helps you too.
- First of all, tell yourself "I choose to work with my boss and accept him as my boss."
- "No one can make me feel inferior, without my consent."
- I have faith in my mission. (to tune down my Boss!. :), at least a tad bit.)
- When someone is angry, refrain from advising/highlighting mistakes. Bring the topic up at a later time when things are cooler.
- Respond rather than React. (Take 5 deep breaths before replying to your bosses demands/questions.)
- I use a lot of sentences of agreement when handling adament/demanding people. ex. * "You are absolutely right, maybe we should do it your way and also do this along with it..." * Yes, I agree with what you say....
- I normally try to manipulate the response of such people to channelise only their positive energies.
- Most important, allow them to remain in their comfort zone, keep your antennae high up in the air and any sign that the situation may go out of hand, seal the topic there and get busy with something else.
- You may also want to try speaking with your bosses' boss asking his "HELP" to calm your boss down.
- Try appreciating the good things in him. (If you can, say them aloud.)
- Get him involved. Seek his help in case studies. (Especially if there's a situation where there is conflict, seek his opinion, tell him how you intend to handle the situation and ask if he agress with your method. {and if he doesnt, dont get disheartened, follow your heart in solving the situation} the idea here is to get his thought porcess started).
You would realise a lot more things that you can do, once you decide to stretch a helping hand to your boss.
You have taken up a noble cause. I applaud your effort :) . I would really really like to here about the progress. And if you feel frustrated and begin feeling "why the hell am I even tolerating this @#%$23!" share your feelings too. I am cool with listening to whatever you wish to share with me.
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Cheers.