I know many of you probably think that I am overdoing but this is too good to be true. As many of you are probably aware, in the movie “Cheeni Kum”, the ever charming Mr Bachchan and the gorgeous and talented Tabu fall in love with one another like that other movie Nishabdh that came a little while ago. Cheeni Kum is much better in my view.
I will not divulge the story but there are a couple of interesting dialogues from HRM(right man for the right job) perspective. Only yesterday, I replied to somebody's post in detail on the book “First, break all the rules” which gives examples of how people miscast(like movie actors) in their roles in corporate life suffer along with their companies.
In the movie, Mr Bachchan who is a Chef tells a subordinate chef “ Agar pyaaz hing ki jagah le sakta hai or hing pyaz ki jagah tau tumhara yehaan kya kaam hai(If onion can take the place of asafetida and vice-versa, what is the need for you to be here? ” implying that every thing is unique in its role. He then goes on to describe how great an art cooking is and what a privilege it was to be a cook. In real life, only somebody who really loves his occupation can talk like that. Bachchan's real life was also like that- he left the corporate world in 1969 to follow his passion, acting.
More interesting is what Tabu tells her father while seeking to marry the much older Mr Bachchan “Better to spend 10 years with somebody you love rather than spend 50 with someone you don't”. Since according to Mr Dale Carnegie the right occupation(HRM) and the right spouse are the two most important decisions of one's life, that was quite an insight for the other major decision(occupation) as well:-
India's great mystic in recent times, Osho once gave the example of a very successful surgeon for most of his life(50 years) who actually wanted to be a musician
In that person's own words “ I am sad because I never wanted to be a surgeon but wanted to be a musician. My parents forced me, and I was not strong enough to rebel, and they destroyed my whole life. Even if I was the worst musician in the country, I would have loved it. It was my own choice, my own individuality, my own signature. This has been slavery. And because I am getting retired, I feel sad. My whole life is wasted and it does not seem now that I can begin as a musician”
Osho reminded him that his parents had their best interests at heart and to forgive them and start even in old age.
He lived 15 years more and died a contended man although he never became a famous musician. Nobody ever heard that he was a celebrity as far as music is concerned. His music remained not very developed, because Indian music particularly needs tremendous effort, eight to ten hours practice everyday, a lifelong discipline; only then can you create those subtle nuances. It is not jazz that any idiot can do.
Osho “If he had gone into music from the very beginning, he might have become one of the most authentic, creative musicians of the wold. But even though he was old now, he had died happy”. I(Osho) was at his bedside when he died and he said to me “ There are no words of gratitude for you. You encouraged me. I had lost all hope. I am dying fulfilled. I am happy. At least for fifteen years I have been myself. At least for fifteen years there have been moments when I got lost completely into music. And those have been the greatest moments of my life”
I was skeptical when I read this for the first time several years ago but one begins to appreciate such things better in midlife when one comes across other examples. Even Daniel Goleman in his book Emotional intelligence that many corporate executives drawing seven figure salaries want to go into more fulfilling occupations- social work or opening a restaurant. Why does it take mid-life to realize this?
There is one American gentleman who is trying to do the same thing:-
http://mypyp.wordpress.com/2006/10/2...r-professions/
The other interesting Indian example that I came across was former Billiards champion Geet Sethi's partner, Mr Sunil Aggarwal who, despite being qualified from IIM(Ahmedabad) and IIT(Delhi) and being a managing director of a media company complained of feelings of inadequacy and failure. As Tabu says, why should you spend a major portion of your life doing something that you don't like(cheeni kum?) and try to make up for it at the fag end of life.
I will not divulge the story but there are a couple of interesting dialogues from HRM(right man for the right job) perspective. Only yesterday, I replied to somebody's post in detail on the book “First, break all the rules” which gives examples of how people miscast(like movie actors) in their roles in corporate life suffer along with their companies.
In the movie, Mr Bachchan who is a Chef tells a subordinate chef “ Agar pyaaz hing ki jagah le sakta hai or hing pyaz ki jagah tau tumhara yehaan kya kaam hai(If onion can take the place of asafetida and vice-versa, what is the need for you to be here? ” implying that every thing is unique in its role. He then goes on to describe how great an art cooking is and what a privilege it was to be a cook. In real life, only somebody who really loves his occupation can talk like that. Bachchan's real life was also like that- he left the corporate world in 1969 to follow his passion, acting.
More interesting is what Tabu tells her father while seeking to marry the much older Mr Bachchan “Better to spend 10 years with somebody you love rather than spend 50 with someone you don't”. Since according to Mr Dale Carnegie the right occupation(HRM) and the right spouse are the two most important decisions of one's life, that was quite an insight for the other major decision(occupation) as well:-
India's great mystic in recent times, Osho once gave the example of a very successful surgeon for most of his life(50 years) who actually wanted to be a musician
In that person's own words “ I am sad because I never wanted to be a surgeon but wanted to be a musician. My parents forced me, and I was not strong enough to rebel, and they destroyed my whole life. Even if I was the worst musician in the country, I would have loved it. It was my own choice, my own individuality, my own signature. This has been slavery. And because I am getting retired, I feel sad. My whole life is wasted and it does not seem now that I can begin as a musician”
Osho reminded him that his parents had their best interests at heart and to forgive them and start even in old age.
He lived 15 years more and died a contended man although he never became a famous musician. Nobody ever heard that he was a celebrity as far as music is concerned. His music remained not very developed, because Indian music particularly needs tremendous effort, eight to ten hours practice everyday, a lifelong discipline; only then can you create those subtle nuances. It is not jazz that any idiot can do.
Osho “If he had gone into music from the very beginning, he might have become one of the most authentic, creative musicians of the wold. But even though he was old now, he had died happy”. I(Osho) was at his bedside when he died and he said to me “ There are no words of gratitude for you. You encouraged me. I had lost all hope. I am dying fulfilled. I am happy. At least for fifteen years I have been myself. At least for fifteen years there have been moments when I got lost completely into music. And those have been the greatest moments of my life”
I was skeptical when I read this for the first time several years ago but one begins to appreciate such things better in midlife when one comes across other examples. Even Daniel Goleman in his book Emotional intelligence that many corporate executives drawing seven figure salaries want to go into more fulfilling occupations- social work or opening a restaurant. Why does it take mid-life to realize this?
There is one American gentleman who is trying to do the same thing:-
http://mypyp.wordpress.com/2006/10/2...r-professions/
The other interesting Indian example that I came across was former Billiards champion Geet Sethi's partner, Mr Sunil Aggarwal who, despite being qualified from IIM(Ahmedabad) and IIT(Delhi) and being a managing director of a media company complained of feelings of inadequacy and failure. As Tabu says, why should you spend a major portion of your life doing something that you don't like(cheeni kum?) and try to make up for it at the fag end of life.