Hi, I received the offer letter from a company and was scheduled to join in a week. However, I decided to back out at the last moment. Now, the HR has threatened me by saying that he will ensure I never secure a similar position in any company because he had made several arrangements, etc. Can he really block my opportunities?
From India, Naduvattam
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What was the reason for backing out? Backing out at the last moment is not a professional way of approaching a situation, but that does not mean that any HR personnel can block your opportunities. Employees are hired for their skills, and if you have the desired profile for the job requirements, then no one can stop you from joining them. The HR may speak negatively about you within their circle, mentioning the risk in hiring you due to backing out at the last moment. However, if you have a valid reason for backing out, then no one will dare to harm you.
From India, Ahmadabad
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Hello Aaron Joseph, Like Saji mentioned, pl give ALL the details of the situation. You seem to CONVENIENTLY forget/ignore YOUR contribution to the impasse. Rgds, TS
From India, Hyderabad
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Well, this is totally unprofessional behavior if the HR, and he/she should not behave like this. However, no HR can block opportunities for you if you are skilled enough. But it's still better if you talk with HR and try to sort out the things in a positive manner.
From India, Lucknow
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Hi Aaron,

First of all, I would like to highlight that backing out at the last moment without any notice is not at all professional. You should have informed the company HR in a polite way that you are unable to join the company. However, if you have already done so, no one can block your future opportunities. If the HR has stated otherwise, then he/she is also not approaching the situation in a professional or ethical manner.

From India, Kollam
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Dear member,

Any HR professional will try to save face as they have to report to their higher-ups about your not joining the organization. Especially when you back out at the 11th hour, the company may have incurred heavy losses such as time consumption, advertisement expenses, your interview costs, and above all, you have broken the faith in that company. Therefore, you should not rush into any decision without reconsidering it thoroughly and only after weighing the pros and cons for your future career should you make a firm decision. This will help avoid unnecessary delays in the recruitment process for HR.

Finally, please remember that due to your withdrawal from joining the organization, the company may suffer losses from every angle, which a candidate may not fully comprehend. I hope you understand the gravity of the situation for both parties.

Regards


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Hi Aaron,

If you are having some specialized qualities, which have good values, in the industry circle, e.g. in shipping industry, people attending Customs jobs efficiently, or in Pharma industry, good MRs who have good contacts with Doctors, most of these type of people are known in similar companies by their names, personal style of work, attitude etc. If such person decides to change his job, it becomes news for all other related Companies. Also when Executives, with higher positions, think of changing jobs, it becomes news, and if they play any mischief, it is troublesome for all concerned.

If you feel, you fall in such kind of category, then to some extent, HR, who is now annoyed, because of your backing out, may spread bad words about you. Since you have backed out at 11th hour, which is certainly not a good thing, anybody will become uncomfortable, and will think of teaching you a lesson.

Ofcourse, such kind of thinking /attitude, (Yours as well HRs), is totally unprofessional, and nobody should actually behave like this. I am 100 percent sure the concerned HR has just threatened you to make you frightened, and in reality will not behave what he has said. This is a temporary anger, and he will forget the issue, once little time passes away, and once he becomes active in selection of another candidate of your designation, and also sees another equally competent person, like you. Even he may give you a big thank you, if you meet him coincidently, on any occasion, or suddenly in travel, and will say, ‘Good that you didn’t join, I got much much better person, and my bosses have given me appreciation for my Excellent job of selection of perfect candidate’. (These will be ofcourse his sarcastic remarks, to make you uncomfortable).

To conclude, I don’t think, in whatever capacity, the person is working, no HR can spoil anybody’s career by such kind of tacties. So Relax !

Suggestion : Meet the annoyed HR personally, very politely give some good reasons, for your backing out, which should sound genuine. Apologise and say Sorry (again it should sound genuine, and from bottom of your heart). I am sure, if at all he is planning to disturb your Career, he will become cool.

From India, Mumbai
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Hi Aaron,

Let me add my two cents to address your concerns.

First, every organization, while recruiting, goes through a whole host of resumes and then makes their selection.

Nearly always, there is a fallback plan because no HR professional seriously expects ALL the offers made to be accepted. Assuming the first choice does not accept the offer, the offer is made to the next candidate in line.

It is a tall order to believe that the entire set of HR professionals is so well-networked that they will be able to (a) share the information with all the other recruiters and (b) the recruiters will reject candidates based on such inputs. Apart from sharing this information with a group of friends in HR, not much will come out of it. Also, it is unlikely that even if the name is shared, the other HR folks will remember it to reject the candidate.

In an overall assessment of your situation, it is unlikely that there would be an adverse fallout from your not accepting the offer.

Regards,

Raju Bhatnagar

From India, Bangalore
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Once the offer is accepted by a candidate, it's absolutely unprofessional to back out from joining at the last moment, as it creates a lot of problems not only for the HR professional but also for the recruitment consultant if there is one involved.

For HR, it's a waste of precious time as the recruitment process is a lengthy one which starts from allocating a certain budget for a particular position for which the recruitment is initiated to the point of closing the position. This involves many steps right from preparing a JD to start hunting the candidates from various sources like Job Portals, Networking Sites, Personal Contacts, and Recruitment agencies. After going through many profiles, HR shortlists a few suitable profiles which are called out of which a handful show interest and are interviewed, and only very few clear the interview. After that, there are many factors involved like Salary Negotiations, Notice period, etc. After settling on all these, HR makes an offer to the person who is selected by the Managers of that department. Even at this stage, if the candidate is not accepting the offer, it's fine. But once the offer is accepted by the candidate, and the joining date is decided, it becomes very difficult for the HR if the candidate doesn't join.

As far as the Recruitment consultant is concerned, they get paid only after the candidate joins the organization. Hence, if in your case any consultancy is involved, your decision of backing out is going to cost them a lot as well. And of course, they would think twice before contacting you again for any position in the future. Hence, it's absolutely important for a candidate to go through all aspects of the offer made before accepting it, as once accepted and then backing out leaves a bad impression on all the parties involved.

Regards,

Bhavik Transit Point HR.

From India, Thana
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There is no compulsion for anyone to join any particular company. But if the entire process goes to waste without any result, it can irritate anyone involved with the process of selection. It has been observed that some candidates take the offer letter from the new company to negotiate in their present company to get a hike. If they get it, they stay back.

From my experience, I can say that HR people do remember these kinds of candidates, and they do not shortlist these profiles even if they are in a different company. Also, recruitment agencies can put negative comments in the resume that any recruiter can read and decide not to shortlist such profiles. No one wants to harm anybody's career, but at the same time, no one would like to harm their own career by shortlisting such profiles!

One should be very serious before attending an interview, and if they are not keen for any change, they should not waste each other's time.

From India, Chinsurah
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Hi Aaron,

Apart from the comments on your behavior by our fellow members, here is my input.

Candidate offer declines are very common nowadays. I have faced situations where a candidate called on their joining date to say they are not joining. In another instance, a candidate failed to arrive on time on their joining date, and an HR person called to inquire about their status. The candidate's response was, "Oops, I forgot to mention that I would not be able to join" :) All of these instances can create a negative impression for the HR and TA team. Many candidates, after receiving their first offer, will explore other opportunities. This is a common behavior exhibited by individuals.

However, this does not justify HR holding personal grudges against candidates. Furthermore, HR cannot ruin your career or blacklist you from future job opportunities based on your rejection of an offer. Even if the HR shares this information within their network, it will not hinder your job prospects. HR professionals are bound by organizational goals and taking action based solely on someone's word is unlikely to be beneficial. If you have a valid reason for rejecting an offer, such as accepting a better one, you should proceed without hesitation.

Additionally, it is essential to avoid repeating the process of offer rejection. Always remember that the professional world is interconnected. I know of a friend who works in HR and encountered a situation where a candidate who had previously rejected an offer from his company was later selected in his new organization. Despite knowing the candidate's history, my friend did not interfere until the offer was extended. However, close to the joining date, my friend retracted the offer given to the candidate. I acknowledge that this may seem unfair, but in such scenarios, the candidate is the one affected. Reflect on this and I wish you the best of luck!

From India, Bangalore
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Hi Aron,

All the learned members have given a balanced assessment of the situation. I have nothing to add, and at the same time, I have nothing to choose much between you and the HR of the company in terms of professionalism (or the lack of it). The lesson that needs to be learned is to do a thorough analysis of an offer before accepting it in the future. Unless there is very reliable adverse information coming to one's notice about the company at the last minute, which is very remote, one should honor one's commitment and shall not back out on the basis of imaginary doubts or for commercial considerations like more pay.

B. Saikumar

From India, Mumbai
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Hi Aaron,

Relax! No one can do so unless he is in politics or among the top 5 richest people in the world. And I am sure you are not such a great celebrity that people will take out time especially to demean you or spoil your future!

This is only a trick to make you join and complete your own hiring target. You meet all sorts of people in the world. Forget it and do what you are convinced to do.

Chill... Take care.

Regards,
Rupinder

From India, Delhi
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Aaron Joseph: I would say this is totally unprofessional behavior by the employee if he backed out without any valid reason. It would cost the HR of the respective company a lot. Here, cost means in different types (time waste, recruitment cost, etc.). The major problem in this situation is that it may be possible the HR is facing a lot of attrition for the position you were about to join and backed out. So, he got frustrated. HR is also a human being; he can have all the feelings. But ultimately, I am not supporting the incident of HR threatening an employee to join forcibly. I would suggest you attend interviews for which you are at least 95 percent sure that you are going to join that company.

Generalizing the issue, let us see the survey by Harvard. Out of every 100 candidates of any interview in India, only 13 people really attend it with passion.

Regards,
Ravi Teja
HR

From India, Hyderabad
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Mr. Aaron,

Your Query: "HR is threatening me, telling me that he will make sure that I will never get into any company for the same designation because he had made several arrangements, etc. Please help.

Position: Threatening or intimidating anyone for not joining any company, for whatever reason, in whatever circumstances, is an unlawful and punishable act. In addition, such a heinous act on the part of HR personnel must be condemned by the HR Management & Development community. In any eventuality, stooping low only diminishes the HR profession.

If the threat persists or continues, legal action under the law for such a criminal attempt is unavoidable. The right to work and the right to life with dignity are fundamental rights in India, not restricted by a last-minute change of mind, and all accused are guaranteed these rights.

You may inform the company to instruct the HR personnel to desist from intimidating. At most, the company might ask you to compensate for any losses.

Kritarth Consulting Pvt. Ltd
11.11.13, 7:40 p.m.

From India, Delhi
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Hi, Mr. Vijayan Krishnan has pinpointed the issue correctly. In this case, both parties' approaches are unprofessional. So, to summarize from the candidate's point of view, it's better that he rejected the organization where such an immature HR person works, who is giving the wrong impression of the company to the market by being a showcase of the organization.

From the company's point of view, it's better if the candidate does not join where issues of transparency, trust, and commitment arise.

So, it's a win-win situation!

From India, Karjat
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Hi,

Yes, as an HR person, it is irritating when a candidate commits to joining and then doesn't join on the agreed-upon date, offering some excuse or another. The candidate may not understand the current situation within the company. When they back out, they will have to go through the entire procedure again.

Many candidates may not be aware that some portals have the option of leaving comments on resumes. Sometimes, HR can utilize this feature. However, don't worry. You can be tension-free knowing that the company won't be informed of where you have joined.

Always ensure that you make a commitment that you can fulfill and don't back out!

From India, Mumbai
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Dear Aarin,

As all have rightly said, backing out at the last moment is not a professional approach, and the company must have incurred certain expenses for your joining. However, even if you had accepted the offer letter, it does not mean that you have legally bound yourself to the company. You have the right to say no if you do not want something. But please do not do it at the last moment.

As far as threatening is concerned, nobody can do so. It's your life. Go ahead and follow what you feel is right for yourself. Just do it the professional way!

Regards,
Prasad

From India, Bangalore
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Hello Aaron, so many professionals gave you their comments. You agreed with the organization to join them, and then at the last minute, you refused their offer. If you put yourself in the HR manager's shoes, you will realize that it's a long process to hire someone – advertising, screening, interviewing, checking, and verifying documents, and then appointing. After so many stages, if the employee refuses to join, it really hurts.

As far as the HR manager is concerned, they will not be able to do anything with you, but you made a big mistake and should apologize to them and deal with them professionally. Anyone can make a mistake, and we are not bound to work for anyone, but the behavior of the HR manager is extraordinary. You ruined all their efforts by joining another organization, so they are upset and don't want to lose you.

Well, apologize to them and try to avoid such behavior in the future.

From Saudi Arabia, Jeddah
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It is understandable that the HR feels sour about your action. Loss of time, effort, and maybe money. Whatever reasons you have, the HR's blood pressure is boiled because they are pressured by management and would now take so much of their time to find your replacement. Sure enough, threatening you is not proper and unprofessional.

Regards.

From Philippines, Davao City
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Dear Aron Joseph,

After reviewing your case, I believe the company has retracted the job offer that was extended to you. In such a situation, as a professional individual, it is advisable that you visit the company in person, meet with the HR department, and have a polite discussion regarding the circumstances leading to the withdrawal of the offer at the last moment.

Regards,
Dharmesh Sartanpara
HR Executive

From India, Surat
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Hi Aaron,

Is your acceptance documented anywhere? If not, then there is nothing to be afraid of. However, as a recruitment professional, I do not appreciate backing out after accepting the offer as it amounts to starting the hiring cycle all over again. Recruiters also have the option of red-flagging your resume on the job portals. Take care in the future.

Regards,
Anoop Mittra

From India, Delhi
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To mitigate this problem, many companies have started using the independent portal iAccept | Home. This helps both the employers and job seekers and also saves embarrassment for candidates when conveying their regret. This is an industry-accepted platform, fully validated, and safeguards the constitutional rights of both parties.
From India, Bangalore
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Anonymous
Hi friend, don't be afraid. No one can block any employee and their opportunities just because they have to answer a number of questions. Moreover, it is not a simple process to block someone's life; it usually occurs in Fortune 500 companies only if a very big mistake is made, not for trivial issues.
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