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Dear Friends,
I am in a difficult situation these days. My boss is highly critical about me and my performance. I try my best to adopt to his ways of working and try to abide by what he says, but i feel i am not able to satisfy him.
As per him, my performance is below average. It is sometimes difficult to take such criticism.
He tries to be critical in front of fellow employees, which demotivates me even further. What do i do?
I am in a HR Generalist kind of role. I have to take care of all HR activities, and admin activities as well, which include travel, visas, transportation, leave records, database management etc.
Please provide me with a solution.
Regards,
Sarika
18th September 2008 From India, Gurgaon

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Hi Sarika,
I understand your situation and I know how it feels when one goes thru this.But why dont you find out what is the real reason behind all this?
First of all dont get de-motivated(I know its easy to say this) because self motivation is the best.Secondly try to find out why he is underrating your performance.If possible confront him and ask him where have i gone wrong?
Cheers
18th September 2008

Hi,
Sarika, impressing your boss does not mean you should blindly follow his orders and stick only to his ways of doing things. If you find a better way discuss that with him.
Speak to your boss about what he thinks is lacking in your performance and what should you do to improve your performance.
Also, request him not to criticize you infront of a 3rd person as it is highly demotivating. Tell him that you are still in a learning stage and would be happy if he can guide you instead.
But dont get demotivated. Few bosses dont give their appreciation easily. May be they feel criticism helps the employee to improve even more. They fail to realize that it might hamper the growth too.
All the best!!!!
18th September 2008 From India, Hyderabad

Hi Deepthi and Rajni,
Thanks for the comfort you have provided.
I feel may be he has in his mind that the profile i have is not much of importance. I mean he doesnt give much weightage to my functions, and what i do to achieve my objectives.
For him it the sales and the supporting functions of sales are more important, which i feel is the basic reason for his being critical for me and my role.
I dont know how to tackle that. He is a terror sometimes.
I try to be paitent in front of him and try and ignore his surcastic comments. But i think this gives him more flexibilility to say anything to me.
Please advise. It is becoming difficult to handle.
Regards,
Sarika
18th September 2008 From India, Gurgaon

Hi Sarika,
Sometimes people fail to realise the importance of others functional roles.You take care of HR general functions like Transportation, Visa etc etc.Lets assume if you do not arrange for visas on time for the sales team who need to go onsite(abroad),the company loses business.This is the point you need to talk it out with him.Reason why your role is important as his...
Make him realise how important your role is and why do you think you deserve appreciation for the same.
Cheers!!!
18th September 2008

Hi Sarika,
I agree with deepthi's advice to you. If your boss doesn't realise your worth, its high time you show him exactly that. Just try and make a list of all tasks done by you on a regular basis n then discuss the same with him. Just dont feel miserable yourself, make him think frm your point of view. If u feel overburdened, let him know that. The need is mutual for you as well as your organisation. There is always a dearth of good people for the jobs.
Regards
Ranjeet
19th September 2008 From India, Bangalore

Dear Sarika,

I go with Ranjit's suggestion to list down the activities done by you on daily basis that would certainly help you to make him understand your hard work for the company and also will make you feel confident when you have appraisals or performance reviews with him.

It doesnt mean that employee could be ill treated if he is not performing well. So please ensure that he doesnt react harsh and rude to you in front of others; either talk to him and make him understand your situation or try to escalate if he continues doing it. Even if an employee's performance is not upto the standard it is the responsibity of manager to train him and make him perform better

Secondly, any employee should be given the due respect but not based on the function he is into or any other factors.

It is also understood if he has an attitude issues where one fail to apperiate others, pessimist or he might be ventilating his job pressure to you.

Please try to understand the rootcause of it and take appropraite actions on time.

Regards,
Gayathri
19th September 2008 From India, Madras

Sometimes , performance also does not count. Pls check what pblm he really he has. These are some of the tactics adopted by seniors to break the confidence of the employee. Either he wants something different from you or he wants you to quit. so evaluate this first. The reason behind my saying is such type of scenario has been witnessed by me closely.
19th September 2008 From India, Pune

hi dear,
i really amazed to see you that you have shared your emotion with your friends. it is better way to share our joy and our sadness. you specially share your demerits or which makes you to feel hurt because it wil give you relife and comfort as part of the body and mind.
Regarding you boss what i say is take in apositive way where you can learn something or it may teaching you lesson to cope with the situation in the future. If you feel that you lost speak with your boss than let it solved or if it doesnot end than end your job. but keep i mind where ever you go problems are common. some time more or less. So think again about your career and future. If you hope that you will be better honered in some other place than get out of it. Beacuse peace and life is more important than money, position.
thanks
Prashanth Joseph
19th September 2008 From India, Bangalore

Why is there a need to teach people things like not to tick off or sarcastic in front of a third person, or belittle someone.
May be the boss has not learnt his lessons well.
Grooming is sacred duty of every senior, unless one is not confident oneself or feeling insecure of the juniors and thier capabilities.
k srinivas
19th September 2008 From India, Mumbai


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