The buddha and the abuse (How to respond to others negative comments)

shijit Started The Discussion:

A tale is told about the Buddha, Gautama (563-483BC), the Indian prince and spiritual leader whose teachings founded Buddhism. This short story illustrates that every one of us has the choice whether or not to take personal offence from another person's behaviour.

It is said that on an occasion when the Buddha was teaching a group of people, he found himself on the receiving end of a fierce outburst of abuse from a bystander, who was for some reason very angry.

The Buddha listened patiently while the stranger vented his rage, and then the Buddha said to the group and to the stranger, "If someone gives a gift to another person, who then chooses to decline it, tell me, who would then own the gift? The giver or the person who refuses to accept the gift?"
"The giver," said the group after a little thought. "Any fool can see that," added the angry stranger.

"Then it follows, does it not," said the Buddha, "Whenever a person tries to abuse us, or to unload their anger on us, we can each choose to decline or to accept the abuse; whether to make it ours or not. By our personal response to the abuse from another, we can choose who owns and keeps the bad feelings."

Its wise to be at cool and silent at times.....

nashbramhall -  Member Since: Feb 2008
An excellent contribution Shijit? Whee did you find this story? Unless they are your words, you should strictly disclose the source.

While searching for this story, I found this about dealing with criticism.!3723.entry


shijit -  Member Since: Jul 2007
Sorry sir, for not acknowledging the source. I took it from my collections of stories. If remember well it was from inspirational stories from that i got. I was not sure of this thats why i did not mention.
I apologize for it.

Originally Posted by nashbramhall View Post
An excellent contribution Shijit? Whee did you find this story? Unless they are your words, you should strictly disclose the source.

While searching for this story, I found this about dealing with criticism.

Personal Growth: How to Handle Criticism and Get Something Good Out of It - Windows Live


K.Ravi -  Member Since: Jul 2007
well no need to mention the source , because it deals with the life of a noted personality, so no need to mention source,,

but big people always tell big things,, which we small people dont understand,, but if u look at the lives of all big people u will know that they rarely struggled they lived in luxury only,,

nashbramhall -  Member Since: Feb 2008
Well Ravi,

I beg to differ. As I mentioned before, if the story is said in our own words, then there is no need. However, if we are are copying and pasting or cut and pasting someone else's script then we need to.

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