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Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, " If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes, it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut way all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, " If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.

Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.'

"I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. ' Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breathe and yelled, ' Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them. 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.


You have 2 choices now:

1. Crib about your daily life and what are you doing and be unhappy . . .

2. Enjoy every moment of your life & give in your Best . . .

Keep Smiling Always...


From India, Coimbatore
Hi, The stroy is very inspiring ...... Right Attitude does contribute in our overall success in life. I am also forwarding a PPT on how to things differently. Regards Binaz
From India, Madras

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Dear Friends,

Thank to Both.

Attitude ... ! is everything i read a book you can win by shiv khera in his first chapter it self he will say importance of Attitude.

Chapter 1 - Importance of building a positive attitude

* change focus, look for the positive

* make a habit of doing it now

* develop an attitude of gratitude

* build a positive self esteem

* stay away from negative influence

* learn to like the things that needs to be done

* start your day with a positive


1. Be so strong that nothing can distueb your peace of mind

2. Talk health, happiness and prosperity to everyone you meet

3. Make all your friends feel there is something in them

4. Look at the sunny side of everything

5. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best

6. Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own

7. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

8. Give everyone a smile

9. Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others

10. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.

The 5 Cs

* character

* commitment

* conviction

* courtesy

* courage

Chapter 2 - Success ; Winning strategies

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal

Qualities that makes a person successful

1. Desire

2. Commitment

3. Responsibility

4. Hard work

5. Character

6. Positive Believing

7. Give more than you get

8. The power of persistence

9. pride of performance

10. Be willing to be a Student - Get a mentor

Reasons for failure - Why we donít achieve excellence

1. Unwillingness to take risks

2. Lack of persistence

3. Instant gratification

4. Lack of priorities

5. Looking for shortcuts

6. Selfishness and greed

7. Lack of conviction

8. Lack of understanding of natureís law

9. Unwillingness to Plan and Prepare

10. Rationalizing

11. Not learning from past mistakes

12. Inability to recognize opportunity

13. Fear

14. Inablility to Use Talent

15. Lack of Discipline

16. Poor self esteem

17. Lack of knowledge

18. Fatalistic attitude

19. Lack of purpose

20. Lack of courage

Crash course for success

* Play to win and not to lose

* Learn from other peopleís mistakes

* Associate with people of high moral character

* Give more than you get

* Donít look for something for nothing

* Always think long term

* Evaluate your strengths and build on them.

* Always keep the larger picture in mind when making a decision

* Never compromise your integrity

Chapter 3 : Motivation ; Motivating yourself and others everyday

1. Develop a sense of pride through training

2. Reward performance

3. Set well-defined, clear goals.

4. Set high expectations

5. Set clear, measurable benchmarks

6. Evaluate the needs of others

7. Make others part of your big picture. Set a good example by being a positive role model. Build the self-esteem of others.

Chapter 4 : Self-Esteem - Building a positive self-esteem and image

1. Read life stories of people who have turned negatives into positives. Make reading good books or listening to inspirational audio tapes part of your daily routine.

2. Regularly and systematically commit a portion of your time and/or money to charitable activity without any expectations in cash or kind.

3. Stay away from negative influence. Donít give into peer pressure

4. Practice giving and receiving sincere compliments graciously.

5. Start accepting responsibility for your behaviour behaviorns

6. Practise self-discipline even when it is not comfortable.

7. Associate with people of high moral character

8. Be creative and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths

9. Practice patience; persevere if the results are not visible.

Chapter 5: Interpersonal Skills; Building a pleasant personality

Steps to building a positive personality

1. Accept responsibility

2. Consideration

3. Think win-win

4. Choose your words carefully

5. Donít criticize and complain

6. Smile and be kind

7. Put positive interpretation on other peopleís behavior

8. Be a good listener

9. Be enthusiastic

10. Give honest and sincere appreciation

11. When we make a mistake, we should accept it immediately and willingly

12. When the other person realizes and admits that he has made a mistake, congratulate him and give him a way out to save face

13. Discuss but donít argue

14. Donít gossip

15. Turn your promises into commitments

16. Be grateful but do not expect gratitude

17. Be dependable and practise loyalty

18. Avoid bearing grudges. Forgive and forget

19. Practice honesty, integrity and sincerity

20. Practice Humility

21. Be understanding and caring

22. Practice Courtesy on a daily basis

23. Develop a sense of humor

24. Donít be sarcastic and put others down

25. To have a friend, be a friend

26. Show empathy

Chapter 6 : Subconscious Mind And Habit; Building a pleasant personality

21 days of conscious effort to change for the better

Chapter 7: Goal Setting; Setting and Achieving your goals

1. Make definite goals

2. Write them down

3. Read your goals twice a day, morning and night

4. Make goals sloghtly out of reacslightlyt out of sight

5. Check your progress periodically

Chapter 8 : Values and Vision; Doing the right thing for the right reason

7 deadly sins

1. Wealth without work

2. Pleasure without conscience

3. knowledge without character

4. commerce wthout morality

5. science without humanity

6. religion without sacrifice

7. politics without principle

What money will not buy

1. Amusement but not happiness

2. A bed but not sleep

3. Books but not wisdom

4. A clock but not time

5. Companions but not friends

6. Finery but not beauty

7. Food but not appetite

8. House but not home

9. Medicine but not health

10. Ring but not marriage

Commitment implies

1. Dependability

2. Reliability

3. Predictability

4. Consistency

5. Caring

6. Empathy

7. A sense of duty

8. Sincerity

9. Character

10. Integrity

11. Loyalty

From India, Madras
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