Dear All, which is better love marriage or arranged marriage Come on lets explore our views. :-P:-P:-P:-P
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Ok lets us continue with this, Which is better love Marriage, arranged marriage and NO MARRIAGE Come on Guys:idea::idea:
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Yes truely said malini. How we can create a heaven for marriage. Thats what the discussion focuse on
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Either it is love marriage or arranged marriage, it doesn't matter. What matters is how you cope up with your partner. Factors such as understanding level, love and affection, trust, respect, attitude, anger, forgiveness, and so on, all contribute to a happy and healthy married life. 😊
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Malini.. Experience speaks? Well said !!! Love or Arranged..does not matter.. It is the Mutual Understanding that is Needed.. Should be a Give & Take Policy certain times :icon1:
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Zsa Zsa Gabor says:
"I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man, I keep his house. He taught me housekeeping; when I divorce, I keep the house. A man in love is incomplete until he has married. Then he's finished. Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do."
Still thinking of marriage guys ???
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"I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man, I keep his house. He taught me housekeeping; when I divorce, I keep the house. A man in love is incomplete until he has married. Then he's finished. Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do."
Still thinking of marriage guys ???
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Jokes apart Jayant...
It is rightly said, "An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband." Only when both are ideal, can there be peace, isn't it? :icon1: I love this by Ogden...
"To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup... Whenever you're wrong, admit it & whenever you're right, shut up." Very true... Instead of debating love or arranged marriages, I think...
"Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we like, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry."
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It is rightly said, "An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband." Only when both are ideal, can there be peace, isn't it? :icon1: I love this by Ogden...
"To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup... Whenever you're wrong, admit it & whenever you're right, shut up." Very true... Instead of debating love or arranged marriages, I think...
"Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we like, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry."
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Well said Malini...... It is not important...how do u get married... by arragements... or Love... Important is... How u keep love prevail... in a marriage.... whether it is Love or arranged. :-P
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How can people debate on the topic of whether love marriage is better or arranged marriage? :unsure::cry::no:
It's like asking someone what is better - to commit suicide :icon5: or being murdered. :beatup:
Just kidding! :-P:icon6:
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It's like asking someone what is better - to commit suicide :icon5: or being murdered. :beatup:
Just kidding! :-P:icon6:
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Actually, love or getting arranged is not what matters. What matters is one's honesty, trust, and maturity to understand, sacrifice, and compromise. To love and be loved, and to feel your love growing each second even after death departs.
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I am arguing for love marriage is better. Each other understanding before getting married. The life becomes more smooth and manageable between the couple in love marriage.
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May be to an extent you are right but.......
Ok, let me differentiate.
Love Marriage:
Whenever we talk of an Indian wedding, we try to equate it with arranged marriages. But there are certain things that are found in love marriages and not in arranged marriages, like spending time together and getting to know each other. Some may argue that even after knowing each other for so long, why do people get divorced after marriage? It is because when two people are in love, they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, talk, and dress in ways that please the other person. However, it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of marriage. This continuous discovery is the true beauty of a relationship, where every day you learn something new about your partner. Even in love marriages, after many years of courtship, some people find their partner not suitable and may break up. Therefore, successful marriage is not just about spending time together; it is about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love, and concerns.
Arranged Marriage:
In the case of arranged marriages, the relationship starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a few meetings before making a final commitment. Arranged marriages offer more protection and security to women, as the parents decide the family. However, this does not mean that arranged marriages are ideal. Even in an arranged marriage, there are different types of social pressures. Social issues such as dowry, the caste system, matching of horoscopes, and community concerns are taken to such extreme levels that some people do not support arranged marriages.
Conclusion:
Love or arranged marriage, both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love, and concern. It is not just about initial love and attraction; it requires a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. There is no such thing as an ideal marriage; it is all about how you perceive your marriage.
Whether it is love or arranged marriage, the core essence remains the same: true unconditional love and understanding of each other. After all, you should be happy with your life partner, regardless of whether it is a love or arranged marriage.
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Ok, let me differentiate.
Love Marriage:
Whenever we talk of an Indian wedding, we try to equate it with arranged marriages. But there are certain things that are found in love marriages and not in arranged marriages, like spending time together and getting to know each other. Some may argue that even after knowing each other for so long, why do people get divorced after marriage? It is because when two people are in love, they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, talk, and dress in ways that please the other person. However, it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of marriage. This continuous discovery is the true beauty of a relationship, where every day you learn something new about your partner. Even in love marriages, after many years of courtship, some people find their partner not suitable and may break up. Therefore, successful marriage is not just about spending time together; it is about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love, and concerns.
Arranged Marriage:
In the case of arranged marriages, the relationship starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a few meetings before making a final commitment. Arranged marriages offer more protection and security to women, as the parents decide the family. However, this does not mean that arranged marriages are ideal. Even in an arranged marriage, there are different types of social pressures. Social issues such as dowry, the caste system, matching of horoscopes, and community concerns are taken to such extreme levels that some people do not support arranged marriages.
Conclusion:
Love or arranged marriage, both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love, and concern. It is not just about initial love and attraction; it requires a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. There is no such thing as an ideal marriage; it is all about how you perceive your marriage.
Whether it is love or arranged marriage, the core essence remains the same: true unconditional love and understanding of each other. After all, you should be happy with your life partner, regardless of whether it is a love or arranged marriage.
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Love marriage and arranged marriage are extremely different. In love marriage, individuals know each other before getting together, whereas in arranged marriage, they do not know each other before coming together. There are significant differences between the two types of marriage.
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Good and thorough explanation, Malini. Good one. I think nothing is left to say further; the debate is endless. But the bottom line is: Success in marriage is based more on understanding than love. It is an ultimate fact.
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Here, I am not in agreement at all. Sometimes in arranged marriage, there is an arrangement. Do you know that after a period of time, arranged marriages become healthier than love marriages? This is my personal experience with my mom, dad, and many other people I know. In old days, people believed in arranged marriages only, and at that time, relationships were healthier than today's. During that time, people knew the value of relationships and respected each other. So, arranged marriage is not bad at all, but it's a gamble sometimes.
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As per the recent survey, most of the divorce cases are from love-married couples. If in love marriage there is love, then what is the need for divorce? Even love persists in arranged marriage. Love is universal.
Let me make one thing clear – not all couples who fall in love will get married. Nowadays, out of 100 love couples, only 10-15 couples marry. Love before marriage can change or end at any point in time, but the love that originates after marriage will persist forever.
Couples in love before marriage will not have any commitments. They just pass time in parks, roads, theaters, college, etc. There is only a 50% chance to know their real faces, and if that couple gets married, especially the girl, they wish to have the same kind of environment around them. They could see the changes in their behaviors, leading to conflict. All these conflicts are due to previous sweet memories that we wish to have even after getting married. Practically, this is not possible.
But the love that originates after marriage will have family commitments. They know the extreme end, and because of the understanding factor, they know what the possibilities are. There are 90% chances to know their real faces. Commitment is merely nothing but adjustment. They adjust – yes, they do. It's hard to break relationships.
Whether it's love or arranged marriage, it depends on the understanding and adjusting capability of the individual. Without that, no love can last long – either before marriage or after marriage.
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Let me make one thing clear – not all couples who fall in love will get married. Nowadays, out of 100 love couples, only 10-15 couples marry. Love before marriage can change or end at any point in time, but the love that originates after marriage will persist forever.
Couples in love before marriage will not have any commitments. They just pass time in parks, roads, theaters, college, etc. There is only a 50% chance to know their real faces, and if that couple gets married, especially the girl, they wish to have the same kind of environment around them. They could see the changes in their behaviors, leading to conflict. All these conflicts are due to previous sweet memories that we wish to have even after getting married. Practically, this is not possible.
But the love that originates after marriage will have family commitments. They know the extreme end, and because of the understanding factor, they know what the possibilities are. There are 90% chances to know their real faces. Commitment is merely nothing but adjustment. They adjust – yes, they do. It's hard to break relationships.
Whether it's love or arranged marriage, it depends on the understanding and adjusting capability of the individual. Without that, no love can last long – either before marriage or after marriage.
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It's called life. Life is full of everything. We should focus on taking in only positive things. Nowadays, love marriage and divorce... Do you know both are directly proportional? In arranged marriage, it's nothing like that. So, it comes down to human beings. There is no fault in arranged marriage and love marriage. It does not mean there is love only in love marriage and no love in arranged marriage. Finally, it comes down to the person who is in that position. It comes down to individual thinking, maturity level. It comes down to human beings. And I will tell you one thing - people in love marriages are having more problems than those in arranged marriages. People in love marriages have higher expectations from their partners. They can't bear even the little things. However, in arranged marriage, people start to love slowly. They try to get to know each other without sharing anything. People try to read each other's eyes, understand their partners through their actions. Without saying anything, people have to understand everything - feelings, emotions. Mind-blowing. I really like this, which makes the relationship stronger.
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Well defined Malini...
The fact is, there are entirely different criteria of Love & Marriage. Love is all about dreams, and marriage is all about life, its practicality, and its bitter facts.
In Love, we just don't want to think of those situations or are pretty confident to handle all the situations without knowing the facts.
It is true that we must experience love at least once in life and we should also marry (once only :) ). However, the fact is both terms are separate altogether with different motives. It might sound cliché, but the bottom line is, I repeat, understanding is what makes a marriage successful, and love too.
Just think, for heaven's sake, most love marriages encounter problems more than arranged ones. So, don't just go by the literal meaning and trust the wisdom shared by experienced individuals.
And remember, there is no correction of this action in the future course of life.
The bottom line is repeating again, understanding is what makes a marriage successful, and love too.
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The fact is, there are entirely different criteria of Love & Marriage. Love is all about dreams, and marriage is all about life, its practicality, and its bitter facts.
In Love, we just don't want to think of those situations or are pretty confident to handle all the situations without knowing the facts.
It is true that we must experience love at least once in life and we should also marry (once only :) ). However, the fact is both terms are separate altogether with different motives. It might sound cliché, but the bottom line is, I repeat, understanding is what makes a marriage successful, and love too.
Just think, for heaven's sake, most love marriages encounter problems more than arranged ones. So, don't just go by the literal meaning and trust the wisdom shared by experienced individuals.
And remember, there is no correction of this action in the future course of life.
The bottom line is repeating again, understanding is what makes a marriage successful, and love too.
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there is no right and wrong abhi. From my point of view LOVE MARRIAGE is pure in my case. If it is pure love than feelings love marriage would be an unmatchable experience
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I am saying this only... There is no comparison between love and arranged marriage. It's a relationship to which we should give value. Love is everything. There is also true love in arranged marriage. As I said, it depends on the person - who is loving whom and what they think about love, relationship, and the value of love. If I do not understand these things, I can't love in a love marriage either. And if I understand, I will start loving in an arranged marriage.
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Hi all,
According to my view, arranged marriage is good because if any problems happen in married life, we can directly approach our parents, relatives, etc. In the case of love marriage, if any problem occurs, I think 90% of parents and relatives don't help. They will tell you to solve the problem yourself, and in case of marriage issues, they might suggest looking for another partner as they don't approve of the marriage. So, if we heed the advice of our elders, they will surely support us.
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Binz
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According to my view, arranged marriage is good because if any problems happen in married life, we can directly approach our parents, relatives, etc. In the case of love marriage, if any problem occurs, I think 90% of parents and relatives don't help. They will tell you to solve the problem yourself, and in case of marriage issues, they might suggest looking for another partner as they don't approve of the marriage. So, if we heed the advice of our elders, they will surely support us.
Best,
Binz
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Love has to be there in life, Soju. There is no life without love. I didn't mean that.
The discussion was over the way of marriage, whether it should be a love marriage or an arranged one. The risk of failure in marriage is higher in love marriage, despite it being based purely on love. The reasons are as stated above.
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The discussion was over the way of marriage, whether it should be a love marriage or an arranged one. The risk of failure in marriage is higher in love marriage, despite it being based purely on love. The reasons are as stated above.
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Thanks Malini, Liked you thoughts too and inspired to write further... Love can happen at any point of time... at anywhere... but.. marriage is an entirely different ball game.
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Yes, dear Abhishek, love can start even after marriage as well, at any point in life.
I also had the same kind of revolutionary thoughts as you, but now experience is speaking. It's not just a mere show of knowledge like you. :) :)
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I also had the same kind of revolutionary thoughts as you, but now experience is speaking. It's not just a mere show of knowledge like you. :) :)
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No, dear. If I am talking about anything that's not bookish, it all comes from my heart. It's how I'm thinking about the relation. And you will never know. I am the person who believes in learning from the child also and I love to know about different kinds of human beings. If you will ask yourself, you will get all the answers, man. And if I wrote anything about marriage, it's all my own thinking and perception about the topic.
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Love is the pillars of all relationships..............no love then no relationship exists either before marriage or after marriage, either love marriage or arranged marriage..............
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Hey abhi, don’t get senti yaar... your thoughts are quiet valuable... Well Malini, It’s a genuine concluding thought......
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Hey abhi, dot get senti yaar... your thoughts are quiet valuable... Well Malini, It’s a genuine concluding thought......
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