If life is perceived as a coin then success and failure are two sides of the same coin. Every person has its own definition of failure. For some, it my be inability to achieve what was thought of while for others, it may be an outcome of a situation which was beyond their control. It is almost impossible to pass through the life without experiencing some kind of failure. Any how, what required being successful is to feel the bitterness of failure one tastes, its impact on thought process and confidence, ability to remove fear of failure and bouncing back. Failure is the most honest, trustworthy and capable teacher of oneís life.
The secret is to develop the power of positivity to convert the agony in to happiness, low esteem in to confidence, fear in to courage and treating failure as feedback .There are many stories floating which tell about consistent failures of persons and at last getting succeed. Lessons to be learnt from such live examples are that we must take failure in life as a natural consequence and embrace it. It should not stop us from making another attempt. It should be treated as an opportunity to take a step back to analyse and revaluate actions and find out whether something can be done in a better way now. If you fail, embrace it, welcome the experience and allow yourself to find your own way of growth, happiness and success. It is for us to decide how to look at it. Either it can be an end of the world or an incredible experience to learn from mistake and take next step. Failure stops us only when we let them. Think of the opportunities waiting for you to embrace in the life journey you will miss if you let your failures stop you from looking forward. Wise people act the other way.
What stops many people to move forward after tasting failure? It is the fear of failure. It is the unknown apprehension in oneís mind that if this time bad has happened what is the surety something good will happen in future. Life has no guarantee scheme either in personal sphere or in professional arena. Actually fear of failure is the biggest obstacle in success and happiness. It will hold you back in life even without realizing what you have lost. Diagnose your own behavior. It can be due to low self esteem or reluctance to try new things or attitude of self sabotage. Read the signs and start taking corrective actions. Break the vicious circle of fear of failure and allow yourself to get into an upwards spiral.
Bouncing back becomes more powerful when done with the strength of learning from failure. Remember, failure will continue to crop up every now and then in journey of success. Pay attention to what went wrong, plug the loop holes and move further. You donít know your failure may be a great learning for others too in life. After all, valuable insights emerge only after failure. Accepting and learning from such insights is the gateway of success.
This issue cover story on managing failures is a pack of powerful thoughts and doses from those stalwarts who have shaped their lives after tasting and learning from failures. Come, let us learn from them how to manage failures and travel on the success route with happiness.
1st June 2016 From India, Delhi