Ego of my colleague - how to deal with it? - CiteHR
Dinesh Divekar
Business Mentor, Consultant And Trainer
Umakanthan53
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Rdsyadav
Educator, Management Consultant & Trainer
Nathrao
Insolvency N Gst Professional
Tajsateesh
Recruitment/talent Acquisition, Career Counselling

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Few months ago I joined in one private limited company. The problem is in my department there is one boy he is working from last 1 year in same company, the thing is he does not speak with me even if it is official - I don't need personal chatting. I think one time I suggest one new thing to management but he did not like it, from onwards he doing this. I don't know what to do, so please help in this case. We both having same qualification and experience.
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Dear Hareesh,
I am not able to understand what answer you are expecting from others in this regard. May be that he is by nature highly reserved and a man of few words.Just because there was a stand off between him and you once on a specific point of common interest, it does not mean that since then he's become antagonistic. It may be your own perception. I think a sense of inferiority has set in you because of your late entry into the company and you might be having higher educational qualification than him. Otherwise, you would not have singled out him from among many others working in the same company to make out a comparison and such a flimsy complaint. You should always remember the fact that there are individual differences among people whether it be public life or personal life. Still if you are very particular, better try to break the ice by always beginning a conversation of his interest.
Dear Hareesh,
There are people of various nature. Everyone cannot have same nature. Few are garrulous and few are reserved. Yes, some amount of openness is expected in the workplace but then as long as your colleague's reserved nature does not impact your productivity, then be as it may. Those who are reserved are not necessarily egotist persons.
I did not understand the meaning of your statement "I think one time I suggest one new think to management but he not accepting, from onwards he doing this."
By the way, how is his nature with other colleagues? Is he reserved with everybody or with you only?
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
Dear friends, Every day all of us encounter with such good and pretty not good situations in routine. This is happening and no body can write to suggest right or wrong .The mailer is advised to desist from such calls becoz therapy is also unknown to whom you call expert.Develop yourself to a level up to forget and catch better way to remain unaffected yourself.
Best wishes,
RDS Yadav
MANAGEMENT ADVISER AND TRAINER
DIRECTOR-FUTURE INSTITUTE OF MANAGEMENT AND TECHNOLOGY
How does it affect you if he does not talk to you?
Be normal and carry on.
If he by any chance speaks to you reply normally.
It is sometimes human nature which vastly varies from person to person.
He may be having his own issues and problem areas for all you know.
He will speak once he feels the need to speak.
Hello Hareesh,
Can you clarify/confirm a few aspects/facts of your situation?
1] What's the employee strength of your Company AND your Dept?
2] Do you need to interact with this boy regularly & on a daily basis? OR is it just a one-off interaction?
3] Like Dinesh mentioned, how is his nature with other colleagues? Is he reserved with everybody or with you only?
Your inputs will enable the members to give actionable suggestions to you to handle the issue better.
@Dinesh--
What he meant by "I think one time I suggest one new think to management but he not accepting, from onwards he doing this" would be this: he suggested something to the management which was accepted by all except this boy.
Rgds,
TS
"""I think one time I suggest one new think to management but he not accepting, from onwards he doing this""
Probably the person concerned is an introvert by nature.
Probably he is an ambitious person who feels slighted that his suggestion is accepted and is now a competitor.
But what the querist should understand that human nature is unique and one cannot expect others to behave the way we want.
Individual quirks,attitudes have to be accepted.If he doesnt speak leave him and let him speak when he feels like.
Dear Tajsateesh,
Thank you very much for your comment. I would like to answer for your queries mentioned above.
1) We are around 150 employees in our company and I'm from accounts dept. there are 4 peoples including myself.
2) Yes, there is a regular chances to interact with him. If I ask or say something he didn't answer of it.
3) Few of our colleagues also have the same situation with him.
4) Probably you are correct what I mentioned previous “ I think one time I suggest one new think to management but he not accepting, from onwards he doing this"
Regards,
Harish.N
+91-9688003853
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