I have been working for a company for 6 years. I have never had 1 single write up, never a bad thing said about my job performance. I started hearing \"rumors\" at work that my supervisor was overheard saying she wanted to have me fired so she could hire her friend for my position. I started noticing \"little\" things and keeping documentation immediately. Important documents were going missing-so I started logging these under \"my documents\" instead of paper files. My supervisor claimed I was using vulgar language in front of my consultant-I privately approached my consultant to apologize for this (I knew I never swore in front of her) she claimed she didn\'t know what I was talking about, she NEVER reported me for cursing. Later I was written up by yet another coworker for \"non work related websites\"- when I asked this coworker if she reported me she stated no and wrote out a statement to prove this. My supervisor has made comments to me periodically that her husband is a politician and she can get away with anything. Her house was recently robbed a few weeks ago and she bragged to me that the perpetrator received a few extra beatings because of whose house he robbed. The list goes on and on of things she is saying and doing, I could type forever. I have consulted a lawyer- he says although what they are doing is unethical and unmoral it is not illegal. I have reached out the company at least 7 times since these problems began so try to resolve this matter and have yet to hear anything from them. I have been on FMLA since 1/7/2014 and will hand in my resignation 1/24/2014. I have never in my life been on anxiety and depression medications and I feel that if I go back she will just humiliate me further and continue to set me up until I am fired.
From United States, Orange
From United States, Orange
Dear Grace
Welcome to CiteHR.com !!!
You have reached the right place for work-related issues and problems, as this is a network of HR professionals.
What your lawyer has said, is correct. Unfortunately the kind of workplace-bullying that you have described is quite common, being a part of office-politics. However, the perpetrators take care not to over-step to make it a culpable offence punishable under criminal law. More often, it is a mind-game.
You need to be mentally tough and ignore or disregard such incidences and verbal attacks. Remember, the other person is trying to mentally destabilise you and put you under stress. The best defence and deterrent is to maintain calm and if appropriate a polite smile. If things get worse, simply say, "What do you mean ?" making the person repeat or re-phrase what they have been saying.
About your FMLA, the period given by you is not clear from your statement, "I have been on FMLA since 1/7/2014 and will hand in my resignation 1/24/2014." Normally FMLA can be taken, for employees who have worked for more than one year; for 12 weeks. However, if you intend to resign; there is no question of "I feel that if I go back she will just humiliate me further and continue to set me up until I am fired."
Do feel free to give more information if you feel you need more clarification and clarity on the issue.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
1426Welcome to CiteHR.com !!!
You have reached the right place for work-related issues and problems, as this is a network of HR professionals.
What your lawyer has said, is correct. Unfortunately the kind of workplace-bullying that you have described is quite common, being a part of office-politics. However, the perpetrators take care not to over-step to make it a culpable offence punishable under criminal law. More often, it is a mind-game.
You need to be mentally tough and ignore or disregard such incidences and verbal attacks. Remember, the other person is trying to mentally destabilise you and put you under stress. The best defence and deterrent is to maintain calm and if appropriate a polite smile. If things get worse, simply say, "What do you mean ?" making the person repeat or re-phrase what they have been saying.
About your FMLA, the period given by you is not clear from your statement, "I have been on FMLA since 1/7/2014 and will hand in my resignation 1/24/2014." Normally FMLA can be taken, for employees who have worked for more than one year; for 12 weeks. However, if you intend to resign; there is no question of "I feel that if I go back she will just humiliate me further and continue to set me up until I am fired."
Do feel free to give more information if you feel you need more clarification and clarity on the issue.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
Dear Grace,
In States, as elsewhere, nepotism and misuse of POLITICIAN'S powers happen. I know a case where a VP of a company was given the boot though (S)he had received good appraisal reports. Her/his job was given to the CEO's mistress. The poor VP had a breakdown because of that.
So, take it as all part of life and let it not cause any health problems.
From United Kingdom
In States, as elsewhere, nepotism and misuse of POLITICIAN'S powers happen. I know a case where a VP of a company was given the boot though (S)he had received good appraisal reports. Her/his job was given to the CEO's mistress. The poor VP had a breakdown because of that.
So, take it as all part of life and let it not cause any health problems.
From United Kingdom
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