Dear Preet,
With much dismay, I have noted that you have not acknowledged the replies of the seniors even after 48 hours also. Some of them are double of your age!
Mr Raman must have spend at least 45 minutes in typing his long reply for you. If you have some gumption, the least thing you can do is to acknowledge the efforts that seniors have put for you.
Gratuitousness is a virtue. Without this you may grow but then you are doomed to fall that is for sure.
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
7855With much dismay, I have noted that you have not acknowledged the replies of the seniors even after 48 hours also. Some of them are double of your age!
Mr Raman must have spend at least 45 minutes in typing his long reply for you. If you have some gumption, the least thing you can do is to acknowledge the efforts that seniors have put for you.
Gratuitousness is a virtue. Without this you may grow but then you are doomed to fall that is for sure.
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
Mr. Divekar,
I find that many persons just shoot in the dark for the heck of it. They ask a one-liner question and then sit back to watch all the grey hairs trying to sort out the riddle!
Sometimes I wonder whether it is worth the while to really try to help the guys / gals.
This subject attracted me (though I am past the age for looking for any job) and I wanted to learn about the various view-points on offer; but alas the questioner does not seem to be interested.
R Ramamurthy
From India, Bangalore
I find that many persons just shoot in the dark for the heck of it. They ask a one-liner question and then sit back to watch all the grey hairs trying to sort out the riddle!
Sometimes I wonder whether it is worth the while to really try to help the guys / gals.
This subject attracted me (though I am past the age for looking for any job) and I wanted to learn about the various view-points on offer; but alas the questioner does not seem to be interested.
R Ramamurthy
From India, Bangalore
Dear Preet,
What two seniors Mr. Dinesh V Divekar and Mr. R Ramamurthy, have said here prompts me to this posting. A thought I felt I should share here to revive what I feel is an "art" that is being overlooked more often these days. It would really be worth looking into.
Reciprocation
According to sociologists and anthropologists, one of the most widespread and basic norms of human culture is embodied in the rule for reciprocation. The rule requires that one person try to repay, in any form not necessarily in kind, what another person has provided.
By obligating the recipient of an act to repayment in the future, the rule for reciprocation allows one individual to give something to another with confidence that it is not being lost. This sense of future obligation within the rule makes possible the development of various kinds of continuing relationships, transactions, and exchanges that are beneficial to the society. Consequently, all members of the society are trained from childhood to abide by the rule or suffer serious social disapproval.
The decision to comply with another's request is frequently influenced by the reciprocity rule. One favorite and profitable tactic of certain compliance professionals is to give something before asking for a return favor.
The exploitability of this tactic is due to three characteristics of the rule for reciprocation.
First, the rule is extremely powerful, often overwhelming the influence of other factors that normally determine compliance with a request.
Second, the rule applies even to uninvited first favors, thereby reducing our ability to decide whom we wish to owe and putting the choice in the hands of others.
Finally, the rule can spur unequal exchanges; to be rid of the uncomfortable feeling of indebtedness, an individual will often agree to a request for a substantially larger favor than the one he or she received.
Another way that the rule for reciprocity can increase compliance involves a simple variation on the basic theme: Instead of providing a first favor that stimulates a return favor, an individual can make an initial concession that stimulates a return concession.
One compliance procedure, called the rejection then- retreat technique, or door-in-the-face technique, relies heavily on the pressure to reciprocate concessions. By starting with an extreme request that is sure to be rejected, a requester can then profitably retreat to a smaller request (the one that was desired all along), which is likely to be accepted because it appears to be a concession. Research indicates that, aside from increasing the likelihood that a person will say yes to a request, the rejection-then-retreat technique also increases the likelihood that the person will carry out the request and will agree to such requests in the future.
Our best defense against the use of reciprocity pressures to gain our compliance is not systematic rejection of the initial offers of others. Rather, we should accept initial favors or concessions in good faith, but be ready to redefine them as tricks should they later be proved as such. Once they are redefined in this way, we will no longer feel a need to respond with a favor or concession of our own.
From India, Hyderabad
What two seniors Mr. Dinesh V Divekar and Mr. R Ramamurthy, have said here prompts me to this posting. A thought I felt I should share here to revive what I feel is an "art" that is being overlooked more often these days. It would really be worth looking into.
Reciprocation
According to sociologists and anthropologists, one of the most widespread and basic norms of human culture is embodied in the rule for reciprocation. The rule requires that one person try to repay, in any form not necessarily in kind, what another person has provided.
By obligating the recipient of an act to repayment in the future, the rule for reciprocation allows one individual to give something to another with confidence that it is not being lost. This sense of future obligation within the rule makes possible the development of various kinds of continuing relationships, transactions, and exchanges that are beneficial to the society. Consequently, all members of the society are trained from childhood to abide by the rule or suffer serious social disapproval.
The decision to comply with another's request is frequently influenced by the reciprocity rule. One favorite and profitable tactic of certain compliance professionals is to give something before asking for a return favor.
The exploitability of this tactic is due to three characteristics of the rule for reciprocation.
First, the rule is extremely powerful, often overwhelming the influence of other factors that normally determine compliance with a request.
Second, the rule applies even to uninvited first favors, thereby reducing our ability to decide whom we wish to owe and putting the choice in the hands of others.
Finally, the rule can spur unequal exchanges; to be rid of the uncomfortable feeling of indebtedness, an individual will often agree to a request for a substantially larger favor than the one he or she received.
Another way that the rule for reciprocity can increase compliance involves a simple variation on the basic theme: Instead of providing a first favor that stimulates a return favor, an individual can make an initial concession that stimulates a return concession.
One compliance procedure, called the rejection then- retreat technique, or door-in-the-face technique, relies heavily on the pressure to reciprocate concessions. By starting with an extreme request that is sure to be rejected, a requester can then profitably retreat to a smaller request (the one that was desired all along), which is likely to be accepted because it appears to be a concession. Research indicates that, aside from increasing the likelihood that a person will say yes to a request, the rejection-then-retreat technique also increases the likelihood that the person will carry out the request and will agree to such requests in the future.
Our best defense against the use of reciprocity pressures to gain our compliance is not systematic rejection of the initial offers of others. Rather, we should accept initial favors or concessions in good faith, but be ready to redefine them as tricks should they later be proved as such. Once they are redefined in this way, we will no longer feel a need to respond with a favor or concession of our own.
From India, Hyderabad
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From India, Hyderabad
From India, Hyderabad
Hello Dinesh/R Ramamurthy/TSK. Raman,
Looks like everyone is speaking to a WALL.
A classic example of 2 Sanskrit phrases I recently used in another thread: 'Paatra / Apaatra daan'.
Why don't we better utilize our time for another more needy individual--who VALUES OTHERS' TIME?
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
Looks like everyone is speaking to a WALL.
A classic example of 2 Sanskrit phrases I recently used in another thread: 'Paatra / Apaatra daan'.
Why don't we better utilize our time for another more needy individual--who VALUES OTHERS' TIME?
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
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