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I would really appreciate if someone can suggest me how i can overcome my problem of gap, frustration and rejection.Some details about me are, I am a commerce graduate.After doing a diploma course in computers i had joined a company as a Office Management Executive But, they change my profile in to Inside sales marketing as my performance in inside sale was better than the direct sales employee.i work with company for a year but leave it because i start getting dumb calls on my workstation and getting flowers in office.I make complain to my boss but he take it lightly. well! meanwhile competitor company offered me a position of Asst-Marketing mgr- Inside Sales so i accept the same.i work their for another two years but leave it because of bad office politics.i wasn't able to get new job for one year because they offered me job in direct sales which i was not keen to do and for inside sales they found me overqualified. At last, i made an amendment in resume and write marketing co-ordinator in place of Asst-Mgr and joined a new company as a Tele-Marketing executive( As i want to join somewhere at least). As the company not able to establish itself even after a year so they start reducing their staff. So i also have to resign But, not able to find a job since then. because earlier they generally offered me the position i haven't applied for( As like, if i applied for event co-ordinator they offer me admin executive, if i apply for business analyst they offer me direct marketing, if i apply for inside sales manager they offered a position in PR). Well! to overcome the frustration i joined symbiosis PGDBA in sales and marketing( my mistake i should have done it in admin or HR) and cleared it with distinction too. But after 4 years of gap in my last job i am not able to understand how to justify my gap. I am 30 and unmarried and don't have a good reason to explain the same. I thought of trying in a BPO but found myself suffering from interview phobia now.

I had written everything in detail so that you have a complete idea about my problem. Sometimes i felt that i should gave an interview somewhere as fresher. WHAT SHOULD I DO IN SUCH A SITUATION?

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Hi Seema ,
Its never too late in life . As it is said 'jab jago tab savera' .
Leave all the negative thoughts and start a new begining with new
thoughts and saying to yourself " Yes i can do it and i will do it" .
You are educated have done PG too .So you can once again try
for a marketing job or even BPO's are also not a bad option.
Or even customer care too .
Now a days if you have a good communication skills lot of opportunities
are available in the market .
Rajeev Dixit
With your experience and the post grad qualification, have you thought of teaching? You may find the field of education less daunting and, though it may not be as lucrative, it's a very satisfying field. Also see Whistling While You Work: The 10 Most Satisfying Careers | CareerCast.com
Don't be negative. Make a tour with your good friends for some days,you will be feel good. After that, try again in your same field with positive energy. You have PG Course and experience,think about change the location,thats also be good idea,so that your chances may increase for getting ahead.Hope you will get something good news in your life.
Dear Seema

There is nothing to feel dis-heartened about.

You were simply, choosy about the kind of job that you wanted to take up; and preferred not to work till something worthwhile comes along.

Why should it be considered as stigma and something undesirable?

A person can dare to be different and choose his or her own way of life. Somehow, the industry calling it a "gap" and as such something not very desirable; is just a prejudice and a false belief. To expect that people would start working and continue till they reach old age and infirmity is not the only way to lead life; nor is it a very healthy or admirable way.

You have taken a much considered break and then pursued an academic course. Subsequently, you think you are not able to fit yourself in some popular moulds which are being dished out to you. It is fine, so far.

Now, you have to make your decision regarding a job. career or plain livelihood. You have to decide and back it up with full conviction, whether you would be able to make yourself ready to accept the opportunities available, and come out of your comfort zone to apply your effort and will to deliver what is required in these roles ?

It is quite possible that on the way you may come across something that may appeal to you.

Alternatively, getting into a job may bring people, circumstances and resources near to you, which you may need to chart out your own journey !

The possibilities are endless !

All you have to make, is a start. Perhaps you have waited long enough for the right opportunity to come your way. It may not be worthwhile now, to wait any longer for your "dream" job. Make a start now, and someday you"ll find what you have been looking for. It would be very unfortunate, that despite your qualification and experience; you do not make a start at all. So, just put all your self-doubts, apprehensions and worries behind you, and start looking afresh at all the available opportunities.

Hope the above, makes some sense. Do feel free to revert back, in case you need further clarification or assistance.

Warm regards.
DEAR, send me ur update cv on my mail id,hope i will find a suitable job for you.
visit emofree (dot) com and download EFT manual. EFT stands for emotional free technique.
You shall improve your confidence and deal with all phobias.
Hope this serves the purpose.
Should you desire more details, contact Nikhil on 09376214434
Dear Seema,
U don't have to worry about this, past is past. Just forget it and move on. What I can tell U is, just keep on trying definitely U will get a better job. There are some ppl who can understand ur profile and reasons for that gap & definitely if everything goes fine U will get a job. Hey don't forget to treat after getting a job :)
Dear Seema,

This is in addition to what other senior members have said. I would not like to repeat what they have said. Have you done SWOT Analysis of your career? If not, then you may click here to know more about it.

SWOT Analysis is powerful tool of career planning. After reading your post, I may say that because of your long stint in sales, you might have developed better selling skills. In the weakness side, I can say that your English is poor. You need to improve your English first. I have drawn this conclusion from your post. You need to learn tenses. Forget about the actual job knowledge, if this is how you speak then who will give you job?

You have developed interview phobia because of lack of awareness. The more you understand yourself, the more you understand the world in a better way. To develop your self-awareness, I recommend you going through following two links:

johari window model - helpful for personal awareness and group relationships


The Johari Window (Questionnaire included for self analysis), - IndusLadies

Secondly, you need to organise your personal life as well. It also has bearing on the professional life. Certain things need to happen at certain period of life. Any delay is not conducive in the longer run.

All the best!

Dinesh V Divekar

Dear Seema, Please intimate your contact details, at least your email ID. I am sure somebody will help you
I am also suffering from age discrimination , low moral , wage difference etc at work place after serving 15 long years in one company . I know the issue but people dont understand the problem .
Dear Seema,
I appreciate the valuable suggestion from Mr. Manpreet, plan & execute a tension free tour along with your closest friends or relatives.
Then after you will be able to think in a right way.


Thanks for going through my problem and giving me your valuable suggestions. Here, everyone has recommended me to be positive. Well! i am still positive but get frustrated at time as like when you apply for some corporate jobs you generally don't get the replies and when you personally meet them for interview if scheduled any, then they found it strange that how come you have so much gap. I had given one interview in BPO last year, they also show concern on gap and package. Although i told them that they can provide me package as per their set standards.But all in vein as they put me on hold. That is the reason i had mention that should i make a fresh start without showing any experience.i know the reason of phobia its because when things don't get materialise u start getting afraid of rejection.

Well! i am not choosy but yes, hard core sales was something i always avoid and this is one thing which always come my way, even my seniors recommend me the same in my exit rounds. So, i had tried my hand in various Admin(data management, making presentations, coordination) and HR( Data search for candidate, interview lineups, reference checks) functions in my previous jobs apart from my own work.High remuneration is not on my top priority list and I don't believe in dream job concept, I am simply looking for stable job with good working environment.

What kind of jobs should i apply now? Should i mention my experience or not?

Thanks & Regards
Dear Seema Sodhi,

Going by your CV and your preferences, it appears to me that you have to put on some more confidence in you. Believe IN YOU and only YOU. There is no point in brooding or get laid on the past. Wake up and face come what may. What Phobia it's nothing but illusion for the simple reason that you won so many interviews and was employed not once but many a time. You did not remain unemployed since you came out of college. You have done PGD, served many firms but honestly you are short listing opportunities coming in your way, that's the truth. So don't tell us stories. Get set and go. You'll get what you want, unless you search and attend how you can bag it ? Teaching ? I got my own doubt, nowadays without a minimum of PG with M.Phil or P.hd. it's not possible, which you don't have, correct me if I'm wrong.

I feel you are good at marketing & sales, a domain which can employ millions. Already some of citeHR friends enquired about you. But search and get what is closest to your heart. I think you can fill the gap by adding one more employer/experience (like freelancer for event management etc.), quite simple, ask your friends to help.

All the best pal.

Dear Seema,
I suggest you to go through a sample report that I can send it for you on various virtues.
Based on these values, you should build on your strengths and improve on weaknesses.
Send me your cv with a photograph and preferably your autograph.
I charge 2 % CTC for such assessment but I shall do it for you FREE.
You may send the details on amazingdowsin (at) gmail(dot) com

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Dear Seema, you have been well advised in the previous comments. Take a job that is closely related to what you would like to do. Do not look at a high position or worry about your qualifications versus your role. Just go out and take a job even if it is temporary or unpaid. Start interviewing and think of these as your practice sessions for the job that you would really wish to get. Your focus now should be to get back into the professional environment, spend your first salary imitating the attire of the successful colleagues and similarly attend to your grooming. Listen to the BBC programmes to improve your diction and fluency in English. Join a local toastmasters club to improve communication skills and build confidence. Success will come to anyone who will work hard and be passionate about you are doing.

How to justify your gap period ? Think about all your achievements in the past few years - you helped somebody, engaged in studies, travelled, etc. and build a story around this that you can happily share with your interviewer. The key word is happily. nobody likes a depressed person and a good way to boost your mood is to start working out or going for long walks which will help your frustration. It is your life and if you decide to take a break from the working world, nobody can dispute your decision but you must be positive while conveying it and if well conveyed, the interviewer will not spend too much time on this as he will assess you during your probation.

Bear in mind that the interviewer infront of you is also under tremendous pressure to recruit the right person or his job and credibility is at stake. He is also trying hard to achieve recognition with his colleagues and management. If you convince him about how you can help the company and the reason why he should recruit you, you will put him at ease. Bear in mind in addition to qualifications, the interviewer is looking for a person he can work with, whose attitude will be a perfect fit for the company culture.

Remember, if others can do it, so can you. Best wishes for all success which is just round the corner for you.
A suggestion : may be attain some additional certification that is in demand and will help you get back into the corporate world ?
Dear Seema, See the last life changing seminar by Sandeep maheshwari from You tube or his website. Paresh Doshi
Dear Seema,
Before joining any job you first attend and complet one personnel development training to overcome such problem and be relax you will get eveything.
for more details you give ur e-mail id i will provide you one good trainig institute who will build your confidance.
Just to identify few things : there are many compannies who will take you as fresher, also many companies who will not bothered about the gap and also many companies are there who will not react or not worried about your gap, they only consider the talent within you. they only consider your appraoch towards accomplishments, they only consider about committments based with confidence.
So all the best for your progress. may god bless you with a satisfactory lifestyle further.

Dear Seema
Donít worry I have gone through same situation. I started my second inning with a salary of 6000/-.And in different field. Now I am running my own company and 300 people are working in my company. And when I start second time there was a huge different in market Scenario. Call centre, software industry came in that period though I was in a very good position before that but I was feeling like illiterate person. Still it was my need to work so I work very hard and rest is the story. So cheer up and don't loose hope. You start where ever you get opportunity. Slowly you will achieve your target.
Take care
It is a pity that career transition experts like www.careershifters.org or www.positionignition.org are not there in India.
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