Attitudes can be changed by changing thoughts. Thoughts give rise to feelings and feelings, in turn, produces action. This is what psychologists say. That is why our Vedas said this 5000 years ago. "Let NOBLE thoughts come from every side to us". To change you attitude, you will have to constantly watch your thoughts. But the mind is a monkey, which is to be tamed. Mind has been described as a flow of thoughts.
How can you change your thoughts? Adi Shankara says in his "Bhaja Govindam"do "Satsangha" that is association of good people. Association of good people will lead to detachment (Nirmohatvam), which will in turn lead to "Jeevanmukti" which is liberation from all the troubles of this world! Psychologists say the same thing as "Develop Positive Thoughts" "Be Positive Always", etc. It appears that these Psychologists have discovered now what our Sages knew 5000 years ago!! This shows that they were far, far advanced in their thinking.
In India all these have been brought in rituals. That is why people do "Nitya Pooja" to keep the mind calm, prevent bad from entering our mind and get positive thoughts. When thoughts are pure , positive and healthy, feelings, which are born from thoughts, will also be pure,positive and healthy. This feelings will lead to positive action through which mankind and history benefits. Remember the Proverb in English? "A man is known by the company he keeps", "Tell your company, I will tell your character!" So to entertain positive and healthy thoughts, you have to be with good people,which is association of people or company.
Just follow Indian way sincerely and faithfully, over a period of time you will notice you have changed your attitude positively. What else you need? No need to study foreign authors,books etc. The prescription I have given to you though appears simple, as it is, in fact it has brought a lot of change to a few of my trainees, who believed me and practised it for months together. They have come tome and confessed that their mind is pure now and they are getting a higher level of peace of mind.Why not you?
M.J. SUBRAMANYAM, BANGALORE
First of all we should thank MJS for his excellent reply to your query. His explanations will surely clear your doubt.
I wish to add few words about attitude. I'm not sure if attitude is everything, but I am sure that it affects everything. Your home life, your job, and all that lives in between is either made better or worse by our attitude.
We should make a winning attitude in order to lead a meaningful life. The following principles are recommended:
1. Realize You Have Control
The great thing about your attitude, is that, it's yours. You cannot control what others say or do, but you can control how it affects you.
No one can put you in a bad mood, unless you give them permission. If someone cuts you off, or criticizes your work, you have to make a choice. Give them permission to change your attitude, or to keep the control for yourself. I suggest you keep the control. You're probably better at it than others to begin with.
2. Be Thankful
Each day you must put things in perspective. You are alive, something that billions of those before us cannot say. You have food and shelter, and Internet access. Something that millions alive today do not enjoy. You have a choice. Something that you should cherish every waking moment.
Once you are thankful for the things you have, not having something won't matter as much. You may not be exactly where you want to be, but remember there is always someone who has less, and is happy with it.
3. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
Remember what's important, and let the little things roll on by. Once you focus on the larger picture, you will find less frustration and fewer headaches in your daily interaction with others.
The things that matter most could be your health and happiness, or your family's health and happiness. Ask yourself, when a problem arises, if you can let it go without any negative effects?
For example, if someone cuts you off, could you ignore it and go on with your life without any negative effects? Of course you could, and should. All the anger in the world can't change the unchangeable; all it can do it swipe minutes from your day and peace from your life.
Very useful information.
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