Raising A Moral Child(for All Parents) - CiteHR
Tajsateesh
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RenukaMeera@gmail.com
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1. Commit to Raising A Moral Child

How important is it for you to raise a moral child? It's a crucial question to ask, because research finds that parents who feel strongly about their kids turning out morally usually succeed because they committed themselves to that effort. If you really want to raise a moral child, then make a personal commitment to raise one.

2. Be a Strong Moral Example

Parents are their children's first and most powerful moral teachers, so make sure the moral behaviors your kids are picking up from you are ones that you want them to copy. Try to make your life a living example of good moral behavior for your child to see. Each day ask yourself: "If my child had only my behavior to watch, what example would he/she catch?" The answer is often quite telling.

3. Know Your Beliefs & Share Them

Before you can raise a moral child, you must be clear about what you believe in. Take time to think through your values then share them regularly with your child explaining why you feel the way you do. After all, your child will be hearing endless messages that counter your beliefs, so it's essential that he/she hears about your moral standards. TV shows, movies, newspapers, and literature are filled with moral issues, so use them as opportunities to discuss your beliefs with your child.

4. Use Teachable Moments

The best teaching moments aren't ones that are planned—they happen unexpectedly. Look for moral issues to talk about as they come up. Take advantage of those moments because they help your child develop solid moral beliefs that will help guide his behavior the rest of his life.

5. Use Discipline as a Moral Lesson

Effective discipline ensures that the child not only recognizes why her behavior was wrong but also knows what to do to make it right next time. Using the right kind of questions helps kids expand their ability to take another person's perspective and understand the consequences of their behavior. So help your child reflect: "Was that the right thing to do? What should I do next time?" That way your child learns from his mistakes and grows morally. Remember your ultimate goal is to wean your child from your guidance so he or she acts right on his or her own.

6. Expect Moral Behavior

Studies are very clear: kids who act morally have parents who expect them to do so. It sets a standard for your child's conduct and also lets her know in no uncertain terms what you value. Post your moral standards at home then consistently reinforce them until your child internalizes them so they become his or her rules, too.

7. Reflect on the Behaviors' Effects

Researchers tell us one of the best moral-building practices is to point out the impact of the child's behavior on the other person. Doing so enhances a child's moral growth: ("See, you made her cry") or highlight the victim's feeling ("Now he feels bad"). The trick is to help the child really imagine what it would be like to be in the victim's place so he or she will be more sensitive to how his or her behavior impacts others.

8. Reinforce Moral Behaviors

One of the simplest ways to help kids learn new behaviors is to reinforce them as they happen. So purposely catch your child acting morally and acknowledge his or her good behavior by describing what he or she did right and why you appreciate it.

9. Prioritize Morals Daily

Kids don't learn how to be moral from reading about it in textbooks but from doing good deeds. Encourage your child to lend a hand to make a difference in his world, and always help him or her recognize the positive effect the gesture had on the recipient. The real goal is for kids to become less and less dependent on adult guidance by incorporating moral principles into their daily lives and making them their own. That can happen only if parents emphasize the importance of the virtues over and over and their kids repeatedly practice those moral behaviors.

10. Incorporate the Golden Rule

Teach your child the Golden Rule that has guided many civilizations for centuries, "Treat others as you want to be treated." Remind him or her to ask himself before acting, Would I want someone to treat me like that? It helps him or her think about his behavior and its consequences on others. Make the rule become your family's over-archingmoral principal

Dear Friend, Good Principles laid down and will adopt the same to my children and also the same can be adopted to our employees too. Thanking You, Yours Sincerely, C.Renuka
Hello aui,

While agreeing with you to a great extent, I think you seem to have taken a rather lop-sided view of child psychology.

The end-result of a child brought-up the way you mentioned [nothing wrong in it per se & in fact a good way too] COULD--REPEAT COULD--be an adult who MAY NOT be able to handle the real world when he/she goes out. Let me explain.

While it's all very well & good to teach him/her to lead a moral way of living, it's EQUALLY & in some ways, MORE important to teach him/her on 'how to handle' those who don't follow the rules this child follows--since the world comprises both the good & the bad and everyone will have to interact with all kinds of people in their lifetimes.

Along with learning to live such moral way of life, the child can be successful [NOT just from the worldly point of view but also from a higher plane of 'contented living' too] ONLY if he/she also learns to:

1] handle appropriately those who aren't morally right in whatever they say/do AND

2] discriminate & differentiate his/her way of living/doing/saying from that of the others--quite often the child is tempted to pick-up wrong notions from outsiders--notably during adolescence.

In a lighter vein, I recollect a Quote by Winston Churchill here--that summarizes an adolescent's mind-set, in his typical inimical style: "When I was 16, I thought my parents knew nothing; and when I was 21, I was surprised to find how much they picked-up in 5 years" :-)

In a nutshell, I can only repeat what Abraham Lincoln wrote to his son's teacher about 150 yrs ago: "All men are not just, all men are not true, but teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero, that for every selfish politician there is a true leader.

Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd......., to listen to all men, but teach him also to filter all he hears on the screen of truth and take only the good that comes through".

To a large extent, this is based on Polonius' advice to his son--around 2000 yrs ago.

Rgds,

TS

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