This is a powerful message in our modern society. We seemed to have lost our bearing & our sense of direction.
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.
I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
Dear Friend Roshni, Really Really worthful story and very good message. Thanks a lot for sharing in this forum. I request you to please post good ones in this forum. Regards, Sravan
From India, Hyderabad
It is an wonderful messege to all and excellent. The moral of this story conveys all the value and meaning of appreciation.
Asst.Manager - HR
Metahelix Life Sciences Pvt Ltd.,
From India, Bangalore
Indeed, the story provides a great message for the managers to follow scrupulously, PROVIDED they really want to and are sensitive to their duties and responsibilities towards their subordinates. IN FACT, it is a great mantra for the managers of today.
In your service career you will realize that most of the managers try to act as dictators, not managers or the official family heads. Most of them forget that office life is also like another family life away from their home and they have to responsibly act as a sensible head of that family also.
Managers must remember, cooperation begets cooperation, sincerity begets sincerity. Employees also want their difficulties be solved by their managers, like their own guadians. If they do so, they can be quite a succesful managers (My own experience).
PS Dhingra Management & Vigilance Consultant Dhingra Group of Consultants New Delhi 09968076381
Very relevant and touching story. Every succesful person thinks, he/she is self made and it is his own capability which has contributed to his/her success.
This story is a real eye opener for everybody.
Thanks for posting
From India, Mumbai
Excellent one . Pl read this also Mother...... Think about it ....!!
God cannot reach everywhere...So he created Mothers on the Earth!!!
A simple, yet very expressive snap!
MOTHER IS GOD'S Best GIFT.
If God is great, (Amma, Aai, Amme, Maa, Mom, Mummy................is also great!)
THERE IS NOTHING IN THE WORLD BETTER THAN MOTHER'S LOVE.......
...Nothing in this world is better than a Mother...
Do you know..
a human body can bear only upto 45 Del (unit) of pain.
But at the time of giving birth, a woman feels upto 57 Del of Pain.
This is similar to 20 bones getting fractured at a time!!!!
LOVE UR MOM...I LOVE MY MOM...DO YOU....
THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON ON THIS EARTH
OUR BEST CRITIC
YET OUR STRONGEST SUPPORTER
From India, Madras
Dear Roshini, Really a nice one and touched a lot. This will helps not only managers but the parenthood too. Thanks a lot for sharing. With warm Regards, Nemendra.
From India, Pune
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