Ryan
India's 1st Strategic Strengths Coach, Corporate
Khyat
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Rima.das13
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Sandhyagarg
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WELL WE ALL DESIRE TO BE AT THE TOP POSTS IN CORPORATE WORLD....WE ALL WANT TO MAKE IT BIG.....WE ALL GIVE IN OUR HEARTS AND SOULS TO ACHIEVE IT......

IS IT ALL THAT V R SACRIFICING FROM OUR SIDES??????? NO ...APART FROM THESE WE ARE SACRIFICING ON THE REAL QUALITY TIME WE SPEND WITH OUR LOVE ONES , THE MOMENTS OF CARE , AFFCTION AND LOVE WE FEEL WHEN WE ARE IN THEIR COMPANY........

THE REASON WE GIVE OURSELVES TO ASSURE US THAT WHAT WE ARE DOING IS RIGHT ------ WE ARE DOING THIS FOR OUR LOVED ONES...... A SON SAYS HE IS DOING IT FOR THE BETTER FUTURE OF HIS PARENTS...... A HUSBAND SAYS HE IS DOING IT FOR HIS WIFE....A FATHER SAYS HE IS DOING IT FOR HIS SONS/DAUGHTERS........

TRUE VERY TRUE WE ALL DO IT FOR PPL WE LOVE AND CARE 4.....

BUT HAVE WE EVER ASKED THEM IS THIS WHAT THEY WANT??????????IS IT ONLY MONEY AND OTHER COMFORTS WHICH OUR JOB PROVIDE THEM THE ONLY THING THEY DESIRE??????????????? DOES THIS MEAN MORE THAN OUR SPENDING TIME WITH THEM???????? ASK THIS TO A GROWING SON OR DAUGHTER ...WHAT DOES HE WANT ..MONEY TO BUY MORE TOYS OR SPEND AN HOUR WITH HIS FATHER WHICH HE HAS NOT DONE FOR DAYS MAY BE MONTHS..... ASK THIS TO THE OLD PARENTS.....ASK THIS TO A WIFE WAITING TILL LATE NIGHT FOR HER HUSBAND TO RETURN SO THAT SHE CAN FEED HIM ........

AND IF THE PPL WE ARE DOING THIS FOR JUST WANT OUR PRESENCE IN THEIR LIVES THEN ARENT WE LYING TO OURSELVES THAT WE ARE DOING THIS HIG STRESSED OUT JOB FOR THEM??????? ARENT WE DOING IT FOR OUR OWN SELFISH SELVES ...EVEN THOUGH ARE INTENSIONS ARE PURE.....

GUYS LIFE IS SHORT.........V GOT TO DECIDE WAT WE WANT.....

ISN'T IT ?????????????????????????????

TRUE...VERY TRUE KHYAT!!
but who is to blame???
is really a person who is devoting all his /her time to give all the comforts to the spouse/children or parents???
here that person is not wrong but yes time management should be there . even a single hour with fully devotion to his family members is enough if in that time his personal life is totally personal.
n i hv seen some cases where spouse/children or parents need comforts or money more as compared to his precious time. but for this case percentage is less.
-Sandhya

U R RIGHT SANDHYA..................................BUT ISNTY IT IRONICAL..............THE PEOPLE FOR WHOM WE MAKE SACRIFICE ..THEY ARE THE 1 WHO DONT WANT US TO MAKE THE SACRIFICE......
I GUESS THATS LIFE

Exactly..this is the life
v can try to make changes in it but a bit!!
bt at lst 1 shud try to mange wat i blv bcz if thr is a will , thr is a way.
if u hv got a way to earn in order to make ur loved ones happy then u can get the other way also to make them actually happy....!!
wat u say???

Dear all
The discussion is really an interesting one but think about one thing. Ya its true that our family members miss us; they don’t want our money but our time. All these are ok. But think can our family members be proud of us if we don’t do our work and bring home the money.
How will a son get arrange for the best of medical facilities for his parents if he doesn’t work……….
How will a father teach his children and send them for higher education if he doesn’t work hard………
How wills a husband ensure that his wife is happy and getting the best of the things if he doesn’t work hard………..
And without these things will the parents, children, wife be really happy?
We definitely work hard for the happiness of our loved ones.
Think about it…
Regards
Rima

ABSOLUTELY SANDHYA BUT THATS WHAT THE PROBLEM IS....IN ORDER TO MAKE THEM HAPPY U GOT TO SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME WITH THEM AND ALAS "U DONT HAVE THAT"...........................
U R RIGHT RIMA!!
but the question is not of working hard but wat will u say for that person who is in the position of giving everything to his family but still not devoting the time towards them.
wat i blv ...a person shud not be workoholic!!
he /she must seperate personal life from professional life!!
Rest every person have different way of thinking........

Yes sandhya ur right in ur point. But what I am trying to say is most of the people do not become workaholic themselves but the circumstances turns him into one. Wen he sees his peers are working late in the office he also has to coz he can’t afford to loose his job (especially in these days of hire n fire). When he sees his official working hours are 9-6 but the boss stays till late and his colleagues stays to create an impression on the boss he has to automatically stay whether he wants it or not it becomes a office norms.
Regards
Rima

I think we all r right at our point and even the person who is working late hours and the person waiting to get some precious time
In this discussion now even i m confused where exactly the problem exists??
who is wrong??
can anybody suggest or give a concrete answer for that??

Hi

This late working scenario is something which seems more applicable to Indian organizations than others.

I wonder if there are any of you who have read the following books :

1) Management by guilt by Nicholas Iuppa

2) How to be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson

3) Managing to Have Fun by Matt Weinstein

The first book talks about the REAL managing techniques. It tells it like it is without theoretical jargon. The second book talks about thought and the necessity to take time out today to think and actually "get a life". The third book talks about how to make work fun. Sadly, I dont think they are all available in print anymore.

These books are brilliant, thought-provoking and should be absolutely essential reading for management students AND working professionals who forget their home for various reasons like career growth or money.

It essentially boils down to your personal definition of success. If it is making money and attaining a position, or getting a job which allows time with family, it is a personal definition and as such is not open to judgement BY ANYONE.

However, at the same time, a person who defines success by career and money has NO RIGHT to moan about work life balance, and the rest of the world not being understanding and accomodating for him.

Would like to have the views of the others, especially those who might have read these books. You can google the titles for more information.

Regards

Ryan

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