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Hello All,

Considering everyone has been so helpful and knowledgable with the right skills and attitude, I was wondering if the group members can guide me in dealing with a situation which is really bothering me and affecting my work performance. In a nut shell its asking about "How to deal in a situation when you become the Boss of ur existing boss" . Detailed description below

I joined a Hotel Organisation as a Manager and had to report to Two senior Managers(A and B) who had been with the organisation for a long time - say 7 years (though they both had been in their current roles for the past 6 months). Few months later, one of them(B) resigned from the organisation and I was able to step up to his position, thereby the Senior Manager I was reporting to (Manager A) became my colleague. It didnt go alright initially with 'A' who was trying to show his superiority and arrogance while making decisions. Decisions were never consulted with me and therefore I kept a low profile by not over stepping his orders, or crossing paths with him. However, after a while I had enough and I made him realise vocally that we both are at the same position and should be working in-sync with each other and professionally. Things seemed to fall in place after this particualar discussion. We both were reporting to a Company Manager (X). Now, recently our Immediate Manager (X)decided to pursue some other interests so left the organisation and the management offerred me to take up the position of X.

Initially, whom I was reporting to would now be reporting to me (fair enough, and understandable if you think from his perspective). I can see the envious look in his(A) eyes, and its quite evident he is not able to digest my promotion. He is trying to seed in bad rumours about me amongst the staff members and not acting in the best interest of me or the organisation.

What would the Fellow thread viewers suggest me in dealing with him. I would sincerly appreciate everyone's feedback and thank you all in advance for your suggestions

Kind regards,


The reaction is obvious, hence you maintain the standard and class that you have always been maintaining. He would continue to form forces against you to make your seniors realise how terrible mistake had they made by promoting you. Please expect an unending war till you snap him at his weakest areas . Remember, it’s him who is digging his grave. Hence do not give in any reaction to what he is trying to elicit. At the same time, to much of a dissonance in the work environment will not help you in the long run. Try and make him your ally . If that is not possible finish the saga, when the time is right.
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You may make him happy by getting his suggestions on your decision making, initially. Then he will stop his gossips slowly. But please be firm in taking good decisions. You have been promoted twice, surely, due to your matured handling of all situations. You will win this situation too. Rani HRM
Dear Hitesh,
What (Cite Contribution) have said has a higher probability. Again you shall just have a word with the management in regards to the same and shall hook up a meeting with this particular manager and ask him to give an explanation on to his activities.
Again you shall (as you are his supervisor) can, before everybody in the management shall produce the methodology of work with his listed KRA's & KPI's to him.
However this act would not be an solution but shall halt down his unethical behavior on to professionalism.
You shall try to be little generous to him after the meeting for a short while and then when you feel that the things are on to the right track, you shall put in your plan of actions to him directly.
All the best!
Best regards,

@Tlrani- Thank you for ur valuable suggestions and on being firm.
@ Mahr- Thank you Mahesh for the detailed reply. I would keep your feedback in mind. I believe your suggestion on asking him to explain his activities can be utilised as a great tool in calming him down. Thank you once again!!

Hi Hiten, How are you today? I can understand your situation what you are feeling about it and have several questions and thoughts in your mind. How to tackle this? What you did and why is this hapening with you while you are not wrong and havent done anythig wrong to anyone...its very obvious and i guess you also can understand this ....Became a Sr of a senior..this is a ego problem which is very difficult to accept by Mr. A...

In my opinion, dont take this issue as a very serious issue you can solve this by making good relations with him. Be a friend of him and make him feel that you respect his seniority and experience and felt great that you work under him and learnet many things..

As you are now a senior of him, nothing has change for you and you just would like to work with him and need his assistance and guidance as he has a big experience in this field more then you. And also let him realize that you have never done anything wrong and got selected by the management to take Mr. X position as he has left your organization.

You both have to accept this reality.

Take this issue with your heart and also i wud like to tell you that you need to discuss with him over this issue and let him give a change to tell you what he is feeling about this change in your organization and what you are feeling about it..Im sure he'll understand your situation as he is a senior man and have experience..or will take some time to accept you as his senior and overreact but he'll understand your situtaion..and one more thing plz dont use your power to overcome this situation..this will make this situation bad...and can creat more problems...Best of Luck

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