How to approach girls ??
Its a shame that most men don’t know how to approach girls properly because it is so easy if done in the right frame of mind. The approach should be an enjoyable experience for both you and the girl that you are going to meet. Now let’s examine the frame of mind that most men adopt when speaking to a woman for the first time.
Usually you can break down the process of the clueless man in a few simple steps.
1. Sees attractive girl
2. Thinks about how attractive she is and weighs out if its worth talking to her or not. If she’s REALLY attractive and you think you stand a chance, then it might be worth taking a shot.
3. Tries to think of something to say but draws a blank, heart rate increases.
4a. Goes up to the girl in question, asks an awkward question that conveys absolutely no attraction and produces an awkward moment.
4b. Goes up the girl, tries to impress her and is mad when she walks away.
4c. Goes up the girl, acts cocky & completely out of tune with the rest of the social environment, creates an awkward moment.
5. Man ejects from the situation
What you should do is pretty much the OPPOSITE of all the steps above.
First, before you ever start approaching women, you have to know WHAT kind of woman you want. This is CRITICAL and FUN to do. Write out (or think really profoundly) the woman of your dreams. What does she look like? How does she walk ? How does she old herself ? How does she laugh ? How does she dress ? What kind of personality does she have ? Is she sweet, sexy, edgy, kind, cocky, sassy, smart ? What does she do for a living ?
Imagine her and have no limits. Do it now… I’ll wait.
Alright , I know you’re not doing it now, but do it after you finish reading, Ok ?
A change in thinking
Once you do this, meeting girls will radically change. First, the concept of “you attract what you think of” is very true, and you’ll automatically be drawn to the woman of your dreams. Second, when you are meeting girls, your objective is now to find out if she is your ideal girl.
To paraphrase, when you talk to a woman for the first time, you will be interested in knowing what kind of person she is. If she doesn’t measure up to your ideal girl, then tease her about it. If she does have characteristics that are aligned with your ideal girl, then you’ll genuinely be able to point out how you appreciate that about her.
For example, if you were looking for an honest girl, then you could ask in your conversation,
You: “On a scale from 1 to 10, how honest are you?”
Her: “Umm, I’m an 8″
You: “Is that the 2 or the 8 talking now ??”
If you’re looking for a smart girl, then try to find out how intellectual she is ! If you want a girl that’s adventurous, then talk about adventures !
This concept of figuring out if this girl measures up to your expectations will all come naturally when you know what you really want in a girl. You see, most men don’t know what they want and therefore will just SETTLE for anything with 2 legs. Don’t be one of those people.
Women KNOW exactly what they want
Because they know what they want, they can pick and eliminate men so easily. Being picky shows that you have choice in mates, and that makes you attractive.
The problem with approaching girls is that men don’t know what to say first. Even though the words you say really don’t matter, I’ll give you a few samples.
The easiest, and best approach is:
“Hey! I’m just here doing xxxxx (whatever you are doing at the moment), I felt like talking to you.”
Then just go on and figure out who she really is and if she’s right for you.
From India, Madras
13Its a shame that most men don’t know how to approach girls properly because it is so easy if done in the right frame of mind. The approach should be an enjoyable experience for both you and the girl that you are going to meet. Now let’s examine the frame of mind that most men adopt when speaking to a woman for the first time.
Usually you can break down the process of the clueless man in a few simple steps.
1. Sees attractive girl
2. Thinks about how attractive she is and weighs out if its worth talking to her or not. If she’s REALLY attractive and you think you stand a chance, then it might be worth taking a shot.
3. Tries to think of something to say but draws a blank, heart rate increases.
4a. Goes up to the girl in question, asks an awkward question that conveys absolutely no attraction and produces an awkward moment.
4b. Goes up the girl, tries to impress her and is mad when she walks away.
4c. Goes up the girl, acts cocky & completely out of tune with the rest of the social environment, creates an awkward moment.
5. Man ejects from the situation
What you should do is pretty much the OPPOSITE of all the steps above.
First, before you ever start approaching women, you have to know WHAT kind of woman you want. This is CRITICAL and FUN to do. Write out (or think really profoundly) the woman of your dreams. What does she look like? How does she walk ? How does she old herself ? How does she laugh ? How does she dress ? What kind of personality does she have ? Is she sweet, sexy, edgy, kind, cocky, sassy, smart ? What does she do for a living ?
Imagine her and have no limits. Do it now… I’ll wait.
Alright , I know you’re not doing it now, but do it after you finish reading, Ok ?
A change in thinking
Once you do this, meeting girls will radically change. First, the concept of “you attract what you think of” is very true, and you’ll automatically be drawn to the woman of your dreams. Second, when you are meeting girls, your objective is now to find out if she is your ideal girl.
To paraphrase, when you talk to a woman for the first time, you will be interested in knowing what kind of person she is. If she doesn’t measure up to your ideal girl, then tease her about it. If she does have characteristics that are aligned with your ideal girl, then you’ll genuinely be able to point out how you appreciate that about her.
For example, if you were looking for an honest girl, then you could ask in your conversation,
You: “On a scale from 1 to 10, how honest are you?”
Her: “Umm, I’m an 8″
You: “Is that the 2 or the 8 talking now ??”
If you’re looking for a smart girl, then try to find out how intellectual she is ! If you want a girl that’s adventurous, then talk about adventures !
This concept of figuring out if this girl measures up to your expectations will all come naturally when you know what you really want in a girl. You see, most men don’t know what they want and therefore will just SETTLE for anything with 2 legs. Don’t be one of those people.
Women KNOW exactly what they want
Because they know what they want, they can pick and eliminate men so easily. Being picky shows that you have choice in mates, and that makes you attractive.
The problem with approaching girls is that men don’t know what to say first. Even though the words you say really don’t matter, I’ll give you a few samples.
The easiest, and best approach is:
“Hey! I’m just here doing xxxxx (whatever you are doing at the moment), I felt like talking to you.”
Then just go on and figure out who she really is and if she’s right for you.
From India, Madras
5'6" jiski height ho,
Jeans jiski tight ho,
Chehara jiska bright ho,
Weight mein thodi light Ho,
Umar me difference slight ho,
Thodi see wo quiet ho,
Aise apni Wife ho....
Sadak per sab kahe kya cute ho,
Bhid me sab kahe side ho, side ho..
India ki paidaish ho,
Sas ki seva jiski khwahish ho
Aisi apni Wife ho...
Padosi jab baat kare to haath me knife ho,
Dinner candle light ho,
Dono me na kabhi fight ho,
Milne ke baad dil delight ho,
Hey prabhu teri archana uski life ho.
Yeh kavita padke sab kahe "Guru, tum right ho", Aise apni Wife ho...
Kaash yeh concept 0.0001 percent bhi right ho
Agar aisi apni wife ho to kya hasin life ho
Har kisi ki yahi farmaish ho
kudrat ki bhi aajmaish ho
Khudah ke software mein bhi bug ki na gunjaish ho
Ay kaash, kahin to ek aisi paidaish ho
aisi apni wife ho, aisi apni wife ho....
Jeans jiski tight ho,
Chehara jiska bright ho,
Weight mein thodi light Ho,
Umar me difference slight ho,
Thodi see wo quiet ho,
Aise apni Wife ho....
Sadak per sab kahe kya cute ho,
Bhid me sab kahe side ho, side ho..
India ki paidaish ho,
Sas ki seva jiski khwahish ho
Aisi apni Wife ho...
Padosi jab baat kare to haath me knife ho,
Dinner candle light ho,
Dono me na kabhi fight ho,
Milne ke baad dil delight ho,
Hey prabhu teri archana uski life ho.
Yeh kavita padke sab kahe "Guru, tum right ho", Aise apni Wife ho...
Kaash yeh concept 0.0001 percent bhi right ho
Agar aisi apni wife ho to kya hasin life ho
Har kisi ki yahi farmaish ho
kudrat ki bhi aajmaish ho
Khudah ke software mein bhi bug ki na gunjaish ho
Ay kaash, kahin to ek aisi paidaish ho
aisi apni wife ho, aisi apni wife ho....
From India, Hyderabad
Yes Jannuu.. But boys are not capable to follow it da... They always fall for beauty and fail mostly.. do u agree !!!
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
M agree with u Nith..........lets take an example of RJ: A lways fall for beauty........:-D:-D:-D:-D:-D
From India, Gurgaon
From India, Gurgaon
ok then tell me wat do you see in a gal ?
1. Beauty
2. Behaviour
3. Character
As soon as u see a gal how do u get attracted to her ? iam not asking too personal so giv an decent answer !!!
How can u judge her character ? and how u know her behaviour.. u will observe a gal who look beautifulll only right ??? Say the TRUTH Bhaiya
From India, Madras
1. Beauty
2. Behaviour
3. Character
As soon as u see a gal how do u get attracted to her ? iam not asking too personal so giv an decent answer !!!
How can u judge her character ? and how u know her behaviour.. u will observe a gal who look beautifulll only right ??? Say the TRUTH Bhaiya
From India, Madras
Ok Bhaiya
Tell me wat do u see in a gal ?
1. Beauty
2. Character
3. Behaviour
How do u get attracted toa gal ? how will u judge a gal's heart , character and behaviour ????? u will observe a gal only if ur atracted to her looks ???
If a gal is black , fat and short will u observe her ???? No right ???
Iam not asking personal things here giv an decent answer and Truth answer !!
From India, Madras
Tell me wat do u see in a gal ?
1. Beauty
2. Character
3. Behaviour
How do u get attracted toa gal ? how will u judge a gal's heart , character and behaviour ????? u will observe a gal only if ur atracted to her looks ???
If a gal is black , fat and short will u observe her ???? No right ???
Iam not asking personal things here giv an decent answer and Truth answer !!
From India, Madras
Himaaaaaaa.. I Think RJ Is sure.. he is saying he will not fall in love at first sight.... Telling is easy... but doing it is different !!
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
yes bro... nilu The discussion so far leads to the conclusion that boys are not ugly... but Girls are very POOR....
From India, Vadodara
From India, Vadodara
Hey RJ, I think Nitya posted this only for you and me (handsome), why the rest are in the loop? Ha ha ha Regards, Shiv
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
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