Hi ARchna :
Firstly, I do not buy this logic of big hits me so I hit.. It is generalised unjustifiably. Such victims do not know how to tackle those bigs... There are certainly instances advocating this statement. But not in an alarming scale. If an organisation allows the culture of 'big hitting small ', what sort of understanding and judgement would prevail over there. Certainly such stinking culture itself will kill the oganisation.
Regarding the case of your friend, she is in a pitiable situation, nodoubt.
The doting boss, exploiting assistant, boiling others... I do not see any polished way of bringing sense to boss & his assistant - immoral pestilence. But there is a way.. It needs ruthlessness. Since both are married (hope not to each other), someone should make calls to their homes and sound their spouses. Send letters on this illicit relationship and its effect on the organsiation to the board members. (nothing wrong in sending anonymous letters). Apart from this, the very powerful action would be.. all the members should unite and raise their voice against the assistant to the assistant herself. Shake her up.. instill a moral fear..Will the employees do this.. ? !
The above is not a fiction-idea. It was tried in an organsiation I worked earlier. The boss was sacked. His assistant left the job.
Rgds. Venkat
From India, Mumbai
2Firstly, I do not buy this logic of big hits me so I hit.. It is generalised unjustifiably. Such victims do not know how to tackle those bigs... There are certainly instances advocating this statement. But not in an alarming scale. If an organisation allows the culture of 'big hitting small ', what sort of understanding and judgement would prevail over there. Certainly such stinking culture itself will kill the oganisation.
Regarding the case of your friend, she is in a pitiable situation, nodoubt.
The doting boss, exploiting assistant, boiling others... I do not see any polished way of bringing sense to boss & his assistant - immoral pestilence. But there is a way.. It needs ruthlessness. Since both are married (hope not to each other), someone should make calls to their homes and sound their spouses. Send letters on this illicit relationship and its effect on the organsiation to the board members. (nothing wrong in sending anonymous letters). Apart from this, the very powerful action would be.. all the members should unite and raise their voice against the assistant to the assistant herself. Shake her up.. instill a moral fear..Will the employees do this.. ? !
The above is not a fiction-idea. It was tried in an organsiation I worked earlier. The boss was sacked. His assistant left the job.
Rgds. Venkat
From India, Mumbai
hai archana
This is the problem u can see in any organisation. There wil be some who like us and dont like us.
Since the problem is with the assistance, ur friend can do this simple one. just to know what is the reason that she hate her. so that ur friend can avoid such activities, just for sake of harmonious relationship.
But our activity should not over exposed and shows that we attract her.
u know that in tamil there is a proverb, "dustanai kandall thura vilagu"
but here we go one step further and see why she behaves like that.
This is the problem u can see in any organisation. There wil be some who like us and dont like us.
Since the problem is with the assistance, ur friend can do this simple one. just to know what is the reason that she hate her. so that ur friend can avoid such activities, just for sake of harmonious relationship.
But our activity should not over exposed and shows that we attract her.
u know that in tamil there is a proverb, "dustanai kandall thura vilagu"
but here we go one step further and see why she behaves like that.
Ya......... Archnaji
u r 100% right it happens frequently in professional & personal life. this mentality develop during our development stages of life. its natural process to feel relieved but at the sam tim u mak victim others unkomingly or unknowingly tats nt fair. When v know this things, can stop bhaving in this manner. our generation has to develop such culture for d coming up generation.
ok.bye......
tak car
Regards
GAmbhir
From India, Mundra
u r 100% right it happens frequently in professional & personal life. this mentality develop during our development stages of life. its natural process to feel relieved but at the sam tim u mak victim others unkomingly or unknowingly tats nt fair. When v know this things, can stop bhaving in this manner. our generation has to develop such culture for d coming up generation.
ok.bye......
tak car
Regards
GAmbhir
From India, Mundra
Hey all,
I really liked the idea given by Venkat. I'll try and convince my friend to do that.
The boss is not that bad, but his weakness are females. Actually my friend does not give him that kind of importance he looks for.
The assistant does not come from a good family, marrried to an alcoholic and had three or four affairs in the past. She was actually thrown out of Job in the last company also, and no employee likes her.
I think all the employees will raise their voice against her for sure, but what do we do with the boss.
Thanks you all once agian for such good ideas
Others please contribute your ideas.
Cheers
Archna
From India, Delhi
I really liked the idea given by Venkat. I'll try and convince my friend to do that.
The boss is not that bad, but his weakness are females. Actually my friend does not give him that kind of importance he looks for.
The assistant does not come from a good family, marrried to an alcoholic and had three or four affairs in the past. She was actually thrown out of Job in the last company also, and no employee likes her.
I think all the employees will raise their voice against her for sure, but what do we do with the boss.
Thanks you all once agian for such good ideas
Others please contribute your ideas.
Cheers
Archna
From India, Delhi
Hi ALL, I need more ideas to solve this problem as my friend really need help in this regard. This assistant is surely giving her a hard time. Cheers!! Archna
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
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