Hr & Od Consultant
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Amith R Murthy
Hr Executive
Hr Professional
Gayathri VS
As Mentioned Above.
Head Hr/p&a In A Manufacturing Unit

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Hello Everyone,
I would like to discuss one of my problems with you all.
I am working in a small company of around 50 employees, I am working as an
recruitment executive.I am a bit new to the company around 6 monthes.But in last 6 monthes i have become quite friendly with everyone in the company.And i have a particular group of friends which are from different depatment, as in hr only 2 people r there me and my hr manager.
But recently i have been told that i can't be friendly with people in other depatments as it will give a biased image to the HR of the company.
I only interact with my friends during lunch hrs.
So i am in a dilemma as to what should be done, i can't live alone without any friends and at the same time i don't want the HR to have a partial image in front of all employees.
Can anyone please advice me as what should i do in this situation?

From India, Pune
Hello friend,

It is a very good question you have asked. Most of HR people would go through such dilemma.

HR person needs to strike a balance - on one hand he is required to provide support to employees, help them within company policies and rules. Provide forums for motivation and coming together - yet keep a distance which every employee should feel and be aware of.
HR is required to keep a lot of personal information about employees - confidentiality is a must. Any friendship which is beyond a certail limit is likely to cause stress as you may either unknowingly or knowingly disclose information to others.

HR also requires to take firm stands on administrative issues - for example if you are very friendly with some employees and you want to issue them disciplinary memo for late coming - such situations will put you in to dilemma. Therefore it is better to be friendly but not VERY CLOSE. You should be able to create an image that everything legitimate will be done - it will be done impartially to all - no special treatment will be given to anyone simply because he/she is close friend. Such image will be essential for you to function as a professional HR officer.

Hope this helps.


From United States, Greensboro
Hi Nitu, It depends on the individual, generally seniors says HR should be reserved as friendly manner seeps out confidentiality of HRD. Friendly approach also gives good information to HR MSS
From India, Bangalore
Hi Nitu
To be a good HR person it is fairly important to strike a balance between personal and professional life. It is apparent that when you work with the group of people, you start liking and disliking them depending on your wavelengths shared with others. I don't think there is any problem being friendly to someone provided you maintain the balance. Always remeber! work is work and while on duty nothing should come in between be it your friend or colleague.

From India, New Delhi
Hi Nitu,
I think there is no problem to be friendly with others but keep in mind that you should not dislose the matters of your Department. It is good to make friends but no need to discuss the Official Matters with them.

From India, Chandigarh
Yes i am aware of the fact that information should not be transfered and i take care that nothing is said.But how should i convince this to others.I understand the role of HR, but how should i convey that the friendship is separate while my professional life is different.
But i think it is more important to portray ourselves as someone very neutral towards everyone and that is the most difficult aspect of being HR, of striking the balance between the two.

From India, Pune
Hi, Interesting, if you are close to any one people around you think your sharing all information with them it is contemplativeness. You shouldn’t mind it, if you are confident! Thanks
From India, Bangalore
So long as you don’t mix ur personal and professional life it should not be a problem. But remember that nothing confidential should be discussed during your interactions
From India, Bangalore
Hi Nitu,
Its very important to be friendly and professional, at the same time. I have already faced discrimination from the employees. and they have made statements that HR is very arrogant. So i changed my way of interacting with employees.
Be professional, when needed. Otherwise, you should talk to them, very sweetly, and as a friend. The changes that i have seen, is that if they any grievances they dont hesitate, in telling you. They open up clearly, if they have any problems, and being in HR desk, you have the power of solving things as well... and keeping them happy. Go out with them over weekends...
If you other HR person are not interested, it is their lookout. People like those employees who, and good in nature, and they get success...
Anyways... Im sure you will be a very good HR...
and a good resource in your company...
- Geeta

From India, Mumbai
Hi All,
I had been to an interview in last week, it was scheduled at 9:30am where I couldn't find any administrator at the interview place. Till 10:30 I was waiting as I took off for the day, no representative from that MNC hasn't come for the enquire!
For me it was a different story after this incident!
My questions to all:
1. What do you do if you are a Interviewer
2. How do you react if you are cndidate.
Looking to listen great minds,

From India, Bangalore

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