| emotion management Though this is also posted under a different forum i felt it would be better recieved here
EMOTION MANAGEMENT
When someone is doing some thing or is about to do something in a way I don’t want it to be done-
And I am not able to accept it-I become angry.
However, when someone has something or is about to do something in a way I don’t want it to be done
And I am able to accept it-I remain tolerant.
When someone has something which I don’t have, or someone is able to produce the result which I am not able to produce –I am not able to accept it-I become jealous.
When someone has something which I don’t have, or someone is able to produce results which I am not able to produce-and I am able to accept it-I get inspired.
When I am encountering uncertainty or is about to encounter uncertainty, which I am not sure how I am going to handle-and I am not able to accept it –it causes fear in me.
When I am encountering uncertainty or is about to encounter uncertainty, which I am not sure how I am going to handle – and I am able to accept it-I feel adventurous about it.
When someone has done something that has done something that has emotionally hurt me- and I am not able to accept it-it helps hatred I me.
When someone has done something that has done something that has emotionally hurt me- and I am not able to accept it-it helps me forgive them.
When someone is present in my thoughts, but is not physically present- and I am not able to accept it-I say “I am missing you.”
When someone is present in my thoughts, but is not physically present- and I am not able to accept it-I say “I am thinking of you.”
Then, emotional equation is quite simple:-
Something + acceptance = positive emotion
Something + non acceptance = negative emotion
So it is not ‘something’ or ‘someone’ who I s making me feel positive or negative, but it is my acceptance or non acceptance of ‘something’ or ‘someone’, which is making me feel positive or negative. It isn’t the world but the quality of my response to the world (acceptance or non acceptance) that determines the quality of my emotion.
Next time I feel disturbed with a negative emotion instead, of asking who or what is disturbing me, I will examine who or what am I resisting (non accepting) that is causing this disturbance in me. I will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.
Emotional management begins by stooping to blame that ‘something’ or ‘someone’ and starting to take the responsibility to take the responsibility to respond to life with acceptance.s
Ms MUBARAK | 
