158Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on her. I wondered if this was the cockroach’s response to all the glory that was spoken about it! She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started doing jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me. More than the problem, its my reaction to the problem that hurts me.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual
From India, Mumbai
Reactions and Response (Really Too Good Story)
Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.
I wondered if this was the cockroachs response to all the glory that was spoken about it!
She started screaming out of fear.
With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering!
Was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me,
But its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, its my reaction to the problem that hurts me.
The Take-Away :
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
We should not react in life, we should always respond.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual
Thanks & Regards,
Deepika Kamal
From India, Lucknow
Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.
I wondered if this was the cockroachs response to all the glory that was spoken about it!
She started screaming out of fear.
With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering!
Was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me,
But its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, its my reaction to the problem that hurts me.
The Take-Away :
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
We should not react in life, we should always respond.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual
Thanks & Regards,
Deepika Kamal
From India, Lucknow
Hi Nazir
A very insightful observation succinctly drafted and a very welcome sharing. The message you conveyed is both significant in content and rich in learning. Great post.
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Regards
From India, Mumbai
A very insightful observation succinctly drafted and a very welcome sharing. The message you conveyed is both significant in content and rich in learning. Great post.
Some of you reading this post will immensely benefit by reading the following Inspirational and Motivational Blogs too.
www.actspot.wordpress.com - Daily Blog
www.poweract.blogspot.com - Weekly Blog
Regards
From India, Mumbai
Dear Nazir thank you for the post.
I take this opportunity to make some general comments.
If we are not the authors of the script, we should clearly spell it out with an introduction. If I were posting the same message, I would have said that I got the message in a mail or found it at, for example, Archive for August 2010 <link updated to site home> ( Search On Cite | Search On Google )
I also wonder whether the blogger at the above referred site is the author. But, I would have at least made sure that I would not be accused of plagiarism.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
From United Kingdom
I take this opportunity to make some general comments.
If we are not the authors of the script, we should clearly spell it out with an introduction. If I were posting the same message, I would have said that I got the message in a mail or found it at, for example, Archive for August 2010 <link updated to site home> ( Search On Cite | Search On Google )
I also wonder whether the blogger at the above referred site is the author. But, I would have at least made sure that I would not be accused of plagiarism.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
From United Kingdom
Hello Nazir, Your post is very good.But it is rare occasion for me to behave like the waiter. So thank you so much for sending good stuff. Regards, indhu.
From India, Coimbatore
From India, Coimbatore
My apologies for failing to mention that I have posted the content received from a friend. Somehow I missed earlier posts and felt that it will be of a great interest for the CITEHReans.
Once I posted a Powerpoint Presentation compiled by me titled "HALF MAN". It was very popular and hundreds viewed and dozens appreciated. Suddenly it was removed. I wonder why? I wrote to the Administration of CITEHR but did not get any response.
From Pakistan, Karachi
Once I posted a Powerpoint Presentation compiled by me titled "HALF MAN". It was very popular and hundreds viewed and dozens appreciated. Suddenly it was removed. I wonder why? I wrote to the Administration of CITEHR but did not get any response.
From Pakistan, Karachi
Dear Nazir,
There should be no harm in posting the same material if it was posted long back. Only thing is that, it should be mentioned.This helps new entrants like me.
Once again thanks for the nice material.
Virchand Vira
From India, Mumbai
There should be no harm in posting the same material if it was posted long back. Only thing is that, it should be mentioned.This helps new entrants like me.
Once again thanks for the nice material.
Virchand Vira
From India, Mumbai
Dear Nazir,
This article was written by Deepak Shinde and whenever you republish it you make it a point that, you mention the original author or the the link from where you received it.Better to avoid plagiarism.please find attached the original Deepak Shinde's article.
uttimm
From India, Bangalore
This article was written by Deepak Shinde and whenever you republish it you make it a point that, you mention the original author or the the link from where you received it.Better to avoid plagiarism.please find attached the original Deepak Shinde's article.
uttimm
From India, Bangalore
Dear Vaid,
In fact it is not the case of reaction vs response. It is a case, where the restaurant was infested with cockroaches and the ladies had to face the cockraoches first time in that retaurant, while the waiter was accustomed to facing the cockroaches on daily basis in that restaurant.
So, we must better apply our minds to analyse the situation before we quote some fictitious example like this to prove some theory. For example, if some person appears before you all of a sudden and attacks you with knife, how you would like to respond at that occasion? Would not you like to react? Your response itself would be your reaction. This is just a case of substitution of words. We have to use only appropriate word as the occasion demands, may be response, or to react. So, when you are not aware of the invader's sudden appearance before you and his intentions to attack you, you would definitely react, not respond to the attacker. Waiter already knew about the cockroach menance and saw the ladies struggle, so he reacted otherwise than the ladies did. You may call him, as you like, responded, or reacted.
Better we quote some constructive stories rather than worthless imaginations.
From India, Delhi
In fact it is not the case of reaction vs response. It is a case, where the restaurant was infested with cockroaches and the ladies had to face the cockraoches first time in that retaurant, while the waiter was accustomed to facing the cockroaches on daily basis in that restaurant.
So, we must better apply our minds to analyse the situation before we quote some fictitious example like this to prove some theory. For example, if some person appears before you all of a sudden and attacks you with knife, how you would like to respond at that occasion? Would not you like to react? Your response itself would be your reaction. This is just a case of substitution of words. We have to use only appropriate word as the occasion demands, may be response, or to react. So, when you are not aware of the invader's sudden appearance before you and his intentions to attack you, you would definitely react, not respond to the attacker. Waiter already knew about the cockroach menance and saw the ladies struggle, so he reacted otherwise than the ladies did. You may call him, as you like, responded, or reacted.
Better we quote some constructive stories rather than worthless imaginations.
From India, Delhi
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