Manager's behaviour (extremely bad)

exactly..........100 % true

Dear RCS

I'm in the same dilemma. I have a hopeless, incompetent boss with an extremely negative attitude (towards me and work in general). She had come to this company seeking for a position i currently hold, but because of her age and experience they gave her a higher level, which was obviously a huge mistake.

She is incompetent to an extent where she asked me to fill out her appraisal form in the last appraisal. She is negative, speaks ill of her ex and current boss, and about the organisation and its people.

She never comes back with answers, expects me to do everything, and off late she has stopped speaking with me! When she does, she is yelling and her body language is alarming.

She is a classic example of preaching and not practising. When talking to her gently about this didn't help, i took resort to her boss.

My colleague took advantage of this and now they are a team who dictate terms to me and conveniently change rules for themselves. It's an ego fight at work Everyday.

Speaking to her boss has helped, in the sense that he took my appraisal and was convinced of how good i was, based on my track record.

But he promises no immediate solution on my boss's front. He wants to give her more time.

At this point, I'm frustrated and want to take up free lancing (i'll earn much more and won't have to deal with such bosses).

Request everyone to kindly share their views.

ya pankhuri is right

hey PalB, may b u r senior to me....i dont know
bt i want to suggest u ........ , dont misguide urself n get distracted bcoz of such people in ur life
U better change ur organisation, so dat u can start afresh- dont ruin ur carrer by getting into only freelancer (though u may earn lot as freelancer)
its just arrogance n attitude of ur boss n nothing else
i m sure u wl get a better boss elsewhere

shri rcs,

if possible talk to him or mail him with a copy to the MD how much you respect him and would like to emulate his growth profile as a role model, while clarifying that you do not intend in any manner to harm his prospects owing to your earlier position as EA to the MD. check with him whether any of your behaviours could be deemed to have impacted him personally and that you are open to critique and counsel from his esteemed self.

share with him the way you personally feel about his way of handling you and how it hurts you as an individual and as an professional and how your family is getting hurt too in the process - seek his good wishes and co-operation for your role in a non-threatening polite manner but assertively
mentioning that it is becoming difficult for you to sustain your job in the company owing to the critical incidents created, without blaming him.

mark a copy to hr manager if you feel he could intervene effectively.

in the meanwhile if ok with you seek a new job where you think could be comfortable not allowing yourself to be a victim of life for too long draining away all your energies unproductively, check with your wife how she feels about this proposal of change.

these are theoretical possibilities of possible action while you could be the best judge of what route to take to overcome your personal issues on the job and how to gain favour deploying the interpersonal skills of an EA by speaking-up effectively verbally or in writing in polite appeal summarising the scenario effectively without blaming any one or harming yourself unneccarily, keeping the MD and the HR Manager in the loop. or change the job as fast as possible getting good jobs through references etc.

hope this sounds meaningful and helpful someway,


regards and best wishes to yourself and your family,



kshantaram

Dear Peer,
It's not only by a person, if you take an organization certain number of people are behaving like that with their subordinates, Some of them like you revel that but most of them are not at all open their mouth to expel the problem.
If your immediate supervisor behaving like that, dont worry about that in the same you perform your activities in a full fledged manner.

one thing ' Always ready to face the fence'.

Regards,
Nelson,
Chennai

Hi Friends - Good Morning.

Thanks for your suggestions and valuable time. I would like to share with you that the suggestions given by all of you, most of them (almost all point - 98%) have already been implemented by me i.e. meeting / writing him and/or management (CMD/ED). Remaining suggestions i.e. quite job or meet him again, that I will consider again. Further, I do agree to your suggestions, but still seeking more people's opinion, to know whether I was/ am totally 100% Right / WRONG. I have shared with you all the truth and wd like to know what were my mistakes. In present co. I think many people are in my side, but they can not open their mouth against him, but a few says that I had did nothing wrong and some people who left the organization said, "YOU (i.e. me) HAVE BEEN NEGLECTED BY HIM" without any fault of mine"

MAY I HAVE MORE SUGGESTIONS/OPINION/POSTS FROM EXISTING AND NEW FRIENDS PLEASE. PLEASE HELP.??

Dear SI - Thanks for the motivation and I am trying to manage this situations.

Dear kshantaram Ji - thanks for your suggestion. I have already done above too. As regards to keeping the MD and HR people in loop, I wd like to say that MD is well known abt it but as I said, he can't change his decesions too, as he is one of the oldest man of the co., but he ever tries to co-operate/adjust/transfer me as he knew I did a good job systematically, honestly and hardwork. As regards to the HR people, I think if they will speak more in my favour to him, they can become his enemy too. Yes i am looking for the job too, but due to some unavoidable circumstances, be it less qualification, salary or family problem i am not getting the job I wd like to go for. anyway i am doing so - thanks

hi, Friends - how are you - Pls see if there is any job from especially in customer care division.