Boss is rude...........Plz help

Boss are always right.So appretiate his way of handling his work.Corporate relationship is all about flattering people.Make your personal Relationship as stronger as your work.
Whereas who would say in this world that don't Pat my back !
so leaving job is not a good option.

Hi Shweta,

I totally agree with my fellow's suggestions. Go ahead, try to understand his mood and attitude. Take this siatuation as a challenge and learning. It will not harm you, but only grow your experience to tackle difficult people, if you take it positively.

Rgds,

Uma

Good suggestion and it can be very useful

Dear,
Every company is having such atoms. If your boss is very rude and not in co-operative nature the best way is tit for tate. Many time it helps a lot. but changing the organisation is not good sloutions for you. Try to find out the way to handle the person. Or even if you were taken the decision to change the organisation , put you resignation and mention the reasion of mental torture by your senior manager, and then see the magic.



Best Regards,
Jayant.

I feel that this a good experience for you to learn from this situation.

It is good if you can spend some quality time to understand your boss and his expectations about your work. That should start paving way to a better success. Also as he is an NRI, there will be a lot of cultural differences. I have seen some NRI who still feel a little less about India as they left the country a long time back with some hard memories.

All the best and let all of us know when some of these suggestions work for you.

Rgds,
AKNR

Hi Shweta,

I understand how difficult it is to work for a rude and short tempered boss. However, there could be various reasons for him to behave like this. I would suggest first try and understand what irritates him and what alliviates his anger. Bosses are always good at finding mistakes and that's what they get paid for. However, those who express their views in polite and decent way are called as good bosses and viceversa. I would suggest you to go back and recall each an every situation when his behaviour was rude and harsh,there could be some ways to make him act softly on any of the issues. I came across a manager who believes in shouting at the first instance and then listen to others. We first found out what was the reason behind it which came out as a shock to us. He had a very tragic childhood where he was deprived of his parent's love and affection hence he never understood the language of love. According to me there are three ways for you to come out of this situation.

1. As explained above please try and understand your bosse's behaviour and act accordingly.
2. Express your concerns to him in polite and professional manner.
3. Prepare the data comprising evidences of his rude behaviour and let the higher management know how serious it could be for the employees stability.

Thanks & Regards,

Mehul

Hi Shweta,

I just had gone though your message!!! My suggestion for you as below.

First of all never every and love your boss or your company, I mean to say doesn’t show you are sympathy or emotion. Just love your job and profession. Because, where ever you go you need to do your good work and justification to your duty. Positive attitude and positive thinking is most importance for a HR person, rather then any thing.

Secondly, accordingly to your mail looks like you’re trying to avoid your boss that’s why you’re communicating though most of the time in mail or mailing. Try to understand what he required in work wise, keep on asking him regarding the jobs and let him update all the work what you do. Try for make a two way communication rather then one side. Make your mind set, as if that he likes your work and you. Because until unless you haven’t get this kind of feeling your self, your mind may not accept the things in positive way. Some time what happen even though your boss may say some good things you will take it as negative side, so first change your mind set. I am not denying that you boss is wrong here what he/she is doing at this point of time, but some time and some people like that, more or less Boss is always boss and his always correct. You can’t argue with your spurious. But some time you need to make them understand that what is his/her doing is wrong. I am sure things will not remain same for every.

Already I its too long reply for you, other wise I have one good example for your regarding the mindset.

Third thing regarding the change of job. Changing job is not the wise thing or judgment. Because when you change your job/company, you may get a good boss (better then him/her) or awful boss or may be the same with employee’s good or shocking employees. So its you have adjust and motive them, such way that people will give you respect and recognize you in the organization.

Thanks
Gopa

Hi Shweta,

I just had gone though your message!!! My suggestion for you as below.

First of all never every and love your boss or your company, I mean to say doesn’t show you are sympathy or emotion. Just love your job and profession. Because, where ever you go you need to do your good work and justification to your duty. Positive attitude and positive thinking is most importance for a HR person, rather then any thing.

Secondly, accordingly to your mail looks like you’re trying to avoid your boss that’s why you’re communicating though most of the time in mail or mailing. Try to understand what he required in work wise, keep on asking him regarding the jobs and let him update all the work what you do. Try for make a two way communication rather then one side. Make your mind set, as if that he likes your work and you. Because until unless you haven’t get this kind of feeling your self, your mind may not accept the things in positive way. Some time what happen even though your boss may say some good things you will take it as negative side, so first change your mind set. I am not denying that you boss is wrong here what he/she is doing at this point of time, but some time and some people like that, more or less Boss is always boss and his always correct. You can’t argue with your spurious. But some time you need to make them understand that what is his/her doing is wrong. I am sure things will not remain same for every.

Already I its too long reply for you, other wise I have one good example for your regarding the mindset.

Third thing regarding the change of job. Changing job is not the wise thing or judgment. Because when you change your job/company, you may get a good boss (better then him/her) or awful boss or may be the same with employee’s good or shocking employees. So its you have adjust and motive them, such way that people will give you respect and recognize you in the organization.

Thanks
Gopa

Dear Shwata,

Don't worry am also going through da same phase. Maybe my situation is even more worst than you because i have to tackle the senior management group. Everybody is putting there own views and nobody is really helping. I have taken it as a challenge and you should also do the same.
Escapists cannot be Winners

regards
Piali

Dear Shweta,

I am also facing same situation.

You do your work without any fear. Don't give him chance to find any mistake & error in your work.

But even after if he unncessarily shouts and then you protest him. and ask about your mistake, and if you feel he is right, tell him to show you the correct way.

Why I am telling you this , because if you start listen your boss on everything whether it's rigt or wrong, he /she will always try to insult you and find fault in you.

Because being a HR you should have ability to protesting. Otherwise you can't handle people, if you always listen others.

Thanks

rashmi

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