Why Bosses are Bosses and not a good guide or a friend

Hi All,

This has been a question to me as to why bosses are bosses and not good friends or guides.


Lets talk about members views on this topic.

Regards,
Michael George

I don think so........ U get to learn a lot from the bosses like the managerial skills!!!!!!!!!!

i do agree with seema..........

I met with most inspiring managers and motivational leaders in the mgmt field.
am fortunate that i learnt a lot from these managers and its been huge boost in my personal life...

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Shravan S Kumar
IT-Professional

"If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way"

Hi,

No not all bosses are bosses, they are mentors, they are guides, and they are freinds also. it all depends on us how our communication flows. they are the persons at whom we look and try to reach their place. well i think in my life all my bosses were good. probably i am good.

sadhana

Hi Michael George

i agree with you.. not all bosses can be your friend. finding a mentor or a guide in your boss is extremely extremely rare and what you see more frequently is the bosses who are simply too bossy.

Nevertheless you can learn " managerial qualities" from him, because most of the time you see him exercising it on you !!!! It takes lot to be a leader than to be just a "boss". Most of these "bosses" are made by default than by their credentials.

This is my view...

I have attached an e-book by name "Leader-Manager" in the forum organisation development. I request you to read it... its very interesting George...


Sowmini

Hi,i Am Learning A Lot From My Boss , And To My Conclusion Bosses R Not Friend Or Guide Because They Thought That The P0osition They Have Acquired Currently Cannot Be Touched By Us In The Curretn Years So They Always Keep On Remembring Us That If U Want To Be A Boss Then U Must Have To Beat Me In This Battle Of Race Then U Can Succeed It Means That U Have To Do Better Then Me In The Coming Yrs Then U Will Be My Friend Oterwise U Guide Me What To Do With U .anurag Sharma

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ANURAG SHARMA

Hi
i do agree with seema and the others that we learn and value our relationships with all our seniors.........they are mentors, guides, and r good freinds also.

My Boss with whom i work & report is Junior to me in terms of age, but in terms of attitude, he is a most inspiring manager and its a great motivation to see him lead the pack effortlessly. it has given my career & my personal life a huge boost....
one must accept & disuss +ve thoughts & cultivate the same in others. thats how relationships in HR work other wise life would be hell & you would turn out 2b just another rubber stamp of your organisation...Guys get out & understand manpower & orient them with your goals you would see +ve things happening
Great Bosses are made out of their popularity in a group & they dont fall from the sky :-)
Great Reading
vijay

I do agree with seema. Please change your view. May be there is an exception but its not generalized. Its your capability to move your boss from a boss to a frnd.

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Soumen Paul
HR-Employee Relations
123greetings.com
Kolkata, West Bengal
+91 9433848137

Hello,

Boss is a position in the hierarchy of an organization and much to do with management concepts like, "chain of command", "leadership", "motivation" etc. which are all tools for collective performance for the organization. If Boss is a station where the buck stops then the bosses do not have to be friends.

But when it comes to managerial styles, there is wide choice of styles to choose from but each is still focussed on ensuring performance. Whether a particular style will work best depends upon the urgency and criticality of the task as also upon the personalities of the people involved.

In life generalizations are odius and should be avoided and to that extens I am in agreement with most of the views expressed but would like to emphasise at the end that there is nothing wrong in Bosses being Bosses so long they are not coercive, abusive close minded and unduly authoritarian/dictatorial.

Relationships with seniors, juniors and colleagues depend upon what inputs receive from participants to the interactive relationships.

Cheers
samedan
June 24, 2008
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Hi George,

Actually its not the way you think. I have always come across good bosses who helped to learn and even there bossy nature helped me to learn how to boss and what not to do when I will be boss one day. So its our attitude that creates problem not our boss. Though at times you get some tough boss to cope up with but if always you get such bosses it means problem is with you and not in boss. So just take your time out and think what is going wrong. hope you agree with me and try and find out your problem.

Thnx & rgds,

Nimisha