Female employee wearing sensational clothes in office

Hi,

I have read thru your problem and do not necessarily agree with yours and certain other respondents theories of solution.

Before you send out a mail to the lady concerned either a sole mail to her alone or even copying others or introducing a pan company dress code, I would like you to answer a few questions

1. Is this a problem only you see and nobody else has mentioned?
2. Has others not complained to you about her dressing sense and objected to it?
3. Do u see her as a competition and therefore want to clip her wings by this method?

If the answer to the above questions is a "YES" then we have a problem, which is that it is your problem and not of the others and therefore when u send a mail either sending it to her alone or copying others on it, you could be singled out for being biased towards her.

I think you need to first find out how many others in the company are opposed to her dress code. If there is a majority then introducing a dress code culture could stem the issue. If you see others do not have a problem, then its best to let her be as she is...

Hi Preeti

I totally agree with you that such things in office do create a bad enviroment and needs to be dumped at the very initial stage. U r correctly thiking and u can definitely drop her mail saying not to do such things for the benefit of everyone.....

Hope this works...

Keep us informed...


Regards

-Aniruddha

Hi Preeti,

Thanks for putting up such an important dresscode issue in this forum,

A company need not have any specific dress code, but as a human being we have moral dress code while attending social gathering. Similarly an office is an important place where we meet several people either on some personal reason or official reason.

In your case please send a mail to her alone to change her attitude and if she is admant then send mail to every one about company's new dress code. I have read in some paper that some big companies have introduced dress code to theie staffs.

Thanks and regards
s.v.venkatesan

Hi,

I would suggest talk to her personally and later if she yet continues this habit drop her mail marking her immediate reporting in loop .

( Also keep your HR Head in loop for your actions on this issue )

I am sure this should help you.

All the best !

Regards,
Rimpee Arora

Hi to all

I don't think this is the problem with the dresscode. Dressing reflects the personality(character), attitude, but not merely applicable for all. It depends on the cultural background of the person and many other aspects like some females feel they are not accepted by other females etc.

This is purely a subjective issue. So, Preeti its better to talk to her personally about the female employees dress culture being fallowed till date, but never say that her wearing culture is wrong. Donot avoid her because of her dressing, all the female employees need to accept her and appreciate any change in her behaviour.

Deal in your way, as if she is one among you.

Hi Friend,

It is better to make a dress code policy. In future the similar problem may not occur.

Bye,

Asha Manjunath

Preeti,

Just talk to other female members of staff and take their opinion regarding this matter, if majority thinks that it will spoil the office culture than please do send an e-mail to her but with a diplomatic way.

I hope she will understand your point and will not wear such type of clothes, if she continues than you can direct him to wear formal dress as others are wearing.

Hope this will serve your purpose.

Thanks,

Ajay Verma

Hi Preeeti,
My suggestion would be to talk to the "employee" o a personal basis first and let her know about the discomfort level among the other colleagues. Resolve the matter first at a personal leve;l and if it doesn't work out...then send across an official email.

thanks

Dear Preeti,

It’s hard to agree with your idea of sending mail to everyone for stopping one staff to undergo discipline. It is something that to kill a rat you are putting fire to your house. It is simple as well as little sophisticated since you are against someone’s personal interest. I am surprised to know that you are too late to initiate the discipline or code of conduct in your office. Please make sure that you try to conduct a group discussion as a daily routine as skill development on different topics. don’t put this topic in the beginning and one day when this girls appearances seems to be awkward or it’s out of it’s limit then put the topic of about this issue. I would leave the topic name to the other people in this community to choose which should be simple and very effective since you all know the problem our friend is facing.

Why this drama?

1. You will be able to know how others view on this issue regardless of boys or girls.
2. You will get to know her-own view and the reason why she is with this attitude.
3. There would be someone who can present the issue better than you who is watching this all the day and irritated than you.
4. You will come to know whether it was only you or others too are facing problem like you to face male because of her.
5. Last but not least you will realize if you have gone wrong that you where slow to understand the world (please don’t take it for offence)

I think a personal counselling should do. Being HR you should be able to talk to her without hurting her feelings. You could always say that she looks lovely but somehow for the office it is not a good thing to come dressed like this.

But by now you may have judged her character and would be able to discuss this. Sometimes,it could be that they have come from a background where there has been no love from parents or a broken home that they just want to make a statement in whichever way possible. So get to know her and then have a talk with her.

I hope it helps