Female employee wearing sensational clothes in office

misohail · #**111** 10-06-2008, 04:01 PM

Hi Vidya

I think you have a wrong idea about HR. There is no need to have a "CONTROL" over others. Control is a wrong word in HR world, atleast in todays' HR context. Gandhiji was more successful than any other leaders like Hitler. Control leads to Himsa not love. Employees should love to interact with HR rather than the fear. No more policing. Control mechanism use to work in older days, not any more. Now HR department is more of a facilitating department.

Cheers
Sohail

dvtapse_007 · #**112** 10-06-2008, 04:01 PM

Hi Preeti

As per my thinking, it is better to tell her to wear strictly any decent cloths otherwise one dya everybody will come to meet some problem.

Tapse

doctor57 · #**113** 10-06-2008, 04:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by preeti3

Hi All,

I need your help! We have recruited one new girl as a Business Manager. She was previously working with one of leading media channel as Event coordinator. She joined us on 10th May. She comes to office wearing sensational clothes. We don't have any dress code but we all girls wears descent clothes in office. We are IT software co. with staff of 12 + this new joiner now 13. we wear jeans in week days too but till date we have never felt awkward even wearing capris on Saturdays. All girls and boys wears smart casuals on weekends and in weekdays smart formals or semi formals.
This girl wears salwar kameez also in so vulgar way that it looks so cheap we feel uncomfortable talking with our male staff. All my colleagues are unhappy with her dressing in fact she is giving chance to guys. which is so bad. She wears backless tops with capris or jeans combine this tops with transparent jackets from which every thing is visible, she wears salwaar kameez with horrible necks and backs are always open that too with sleeveless. It looks like she is doing this things purposely she doesn't take care about her exposed body parts. Very soon she will spoil our environment in office.
Being HR i was just watching till date as she is new joiner so i thought it doesn't look good to pinpoint her but now am thinking to drop her email without keeping copy to my director as he is a guy i feel awkward.
Please suggest me should i keep a copy or mark mail to all the girls or to her only. I know no one else needs this email but only i want her to stop wearing all this nonsense clothes at least in office she can wear anything in her personal time.

Please reply me asap so that i can drop her email.

Thanks

Regards,
Preeti

You should talk to her and explain her that she needs to dress decently. You have every right to talk to her. In case you feel uncomfortable, ask some of your female collegue to counsel her.

Regards
Daleep(doctor57

Preeti Bose · #**114** 10-06-2008, 04:07 PM

Hi Preeti,

Maybe instead of making this a personal issue (it will become personal once you send the mail about dress code - yours being a small setup), it will be better to formulate a dress code policy and circulate it asap.

If you don't wish this to be an isolated incident of circulating a policy, you can club it with some HR disciplinary policy and circulate.

Maybe she doesn't realize what she is doing. A mail would serve as a warning/reminder. The idea is to sensitize one and all about office etiquette and decorum without isolating individuals.

Regards,
Preeti Bose

neha.training · #**115** 10-06-2008, 04:13 PM

in agreement to preeti Bose

sara_86 · #**116** 10-06-2008, 04:17 PM

I really dont care about the fact that some one can't keep his **** down. she can wear whatever she wants, as long as she is not voilating the company policy. if she's nice looking and dresses confidently, it's no body's business telling her or wanting from her to dress "decently".

she is under NO obligation to dress nicely to keep some idiots happy. (i may be getting over excited this issue, but i think this is really a stupid thing...as long as there is no voilation of the company policy, she's alright)

that's not what i said or mean. i may have my prefernces. but i am looking at it objectively.

i think she may choose to fix a few things, depending on her job role (being a business manager, i am sure she knows what she is doing...she canot be stupid. that's for sure!)

but to try to please some creeps (who probably go home and dream about her) is just really stupid.

Dont take my words in negative manner.

Regards,

Sara

shijit · #**117** 10-06-2008, 04:19 PM

Dear Preeti,
Its time for your organisation to come up with a clear policy on dress code. The case you are referring here is it your concern alone or expressed by other collegues too? If its a general concern you must address the issue. You must talk to the director and express the need for a policy requirement with regard to dress code. Droping a mail to this particular person, i dont know how effective will that be. Becasue she may think that you are conveying this because of things like jealousy or other grudges. And if in the coming days more employees (new ones and/or the existing ones) start to be liberal on the dress code what are you going to do. In most of the organisation there is a dress code, so its a right time for you to formulate a dress code for your organisation in consultation with your director. When a policy's been there it is easy for you to correct the unexpected or unwanted behaviour of your employee.
Hope i shared something sensible.
Regards,
Shijit.

Quote:

Originally Posted by preeti3

Hi All,

I need your help! We have recruited one new girl as a Business Manager. She was previously working with one of leading media channel as Event coordinator. She joined us on 10th May. She comes to office wearing sensational clothes. We don't have any dress code but we all girls wears descent clothes in office. We are IT software co. with staff of 12 + this new joiner now 13. we wear jeans in week days too but till date we have never felt awkward even wearing capris on Saturdays. All girls and boys wears smart casuals on weekends and in weekdays smart formals or semi formals.
This girl wears salwar kameez also in so vulgar way that it looks so cheap we feel uncomfortable talking with our male staff. All my colleagues are unhappy with her dressing in fact she is giving chance to guys. which is so bad. She wears backless tops with capris or jeans combine this tops with transparent jackets from which every thing is visible, she wears salwaar kameez with horrible necks and backs are always open that too with sleeveless. It looks like she is doing this things purposely she doesn't take care about her exposed body parts. Very soon she will spoil our environment in office.
Being HR i was just watching till date as she is new joiner so i thought it doesn't look good to pinpoint her but now am thinking to drop her email without keeping copy to my director as he is a guy i feel awkward.
Please suggest me should i keep a copy or mark mail to all the girls or to her only. I know no one else needs this email but only i want her to stop wearing all this nonsense clothes at least in office she can wear anything in her personal time.

Please reply me asap so that i can drop her email.

Thanks

Regards,
Preeti

Aparna Nair · #**118** 10-06-2008, 04:20 PM

hi preeti...

well a very usual thing in corporates where it hardly matters for many gals....well rules are meant to be broken.....since u dont have a formal dress code ...i think its high time for u to have them ....mite me she was just instrumental for that cause....

wearing such sensual attire and tryng to make sure that he/she is being noted is an ego boost for them ..nip ot in the bud itself..... frame very specific codes as of how the dresses sholud be...if sleevelss how decent should that be...and if an employee is nt ready to adhere to the code of conduct of the organization then he/she is a total misfit for the organization

dress according to the ocassion is what is so vry important....a track suit wud suit the best during ur workouts but throrughly unadmittable in an office..anf grown up people shud be sensible enuf to understand when they stand wrong....

guys wud surely enjoy seeing another gal wear a backless or sphagetti but will not let their sisters or wives wear 1 and wok on the street to seduce men..... let the poor gal (s) realise ths fst...

regards
APARNA NAIR

rajubanka · #**119** 10-06-2008, 04:35 PM

At first HR has to drop a mail to all the employee and if again she doesn't change her dress style then obiviously HR can take the harder decision.

Quote:

Originally Posted by preeti3

Hi All,

I need your help! We have recruited one new girl as a Business Manager. She was previously working with one of leading media channel as Event coordinator. She joined us on 10th May. She comes to office wearing sensational clothes. We don't have any dress code but we all girls wears descent clothes in office. We are IT software co. with staff of 12 + this new joiner now 13. we wear jeans in week days too but till date we have never felt awkward even wearing capris on Saturdays. All girls and boys wears smart casuals on weekends and in weekdays smart formals or semi formals.
This girl wears salwar kameez also in so vulgar way that it looks so cheap we feel uncomfortable talking with our male staff. All my colleagues are unhappy with her dressing in fact she is giving chance to guys. which is so bad. She wears backless tops with capris or jeans combine this tops with transparent jackets from which every thing is visible, she wears salwaar kameez with horrible necks and backs are always open that too with sleeveless. It looks like she is doing this things purposely she doesn't take care about her exposed body parts. Very soon she will spoil our environment in office.
Being HR i was just watching till date as she is new joiner so i thought it doesn't look good to pinpoint her but now am thinking to drop her email without keeping copy to my director as he is a guy i feel awkward.
Please suggest me should i keep a copy or mark mail to all the girls or to her only. I know no one else needs this email but only i want her to stop wearing all this nonsense clothes at least in office she can wear anything in her personal time.

Please reply me asap so that i can drop her email.

Thanks

Regards,
Preeti

rkandadai · #**120** 10-06-2008, 04:40 PM

I would suggest for this kind of issues which can be handled three levels.

Call her for One-On- One Meeting, give her frank feedback of what others are feeling and be more a friend when you are saying something like this and trying to help her make aware of dress code.
If it doesnt work then send her official email-Personal, see if things working out or not, or else:
Send a Gentle Warning Letter to her-This should defenetly work out.

Once that is done.

Send email to all employees making them aware of the dress code in the office-Monday to Thursday and Friday.

Employee Hand Book will help you to define the same make everybody aware. All employees should have organizational awarness.